Obsessive In-Laws and Step Kids
Does anyone else have significant issues with your "in-laws" regarding Step Kids??
My in laws absolutely worship the ground Step Snot walks on and think she is just perfection incarnate..She is the "favorite" grand child and equally worshiped by other family members. They, of course, never believed in telling her "no" or having any rules or expectations for her.
Then, of course, I came along and actually had the audacity to tell her NO and then I had even went so far as to not drop everything and anything the instant she whimpered or whined. I also must admit that I committed the ultimate sin of not pampering her and catering to her when she was having a temper tantrum!!! (Gasp!! The evilness of it all!!) SO I was immediately the most evil "step mom" in the world to her according to the parents in laws, siblings in laws ect.
DH and I have had significant disputes with his family regarding their obsessive preoccupation with Step Snot and them constantly trying to "butt in" and interfere in how we raise her and in every aspect of our parental business.
In fact it got so bad when she was younger that we cut them out of our lives and those of our children lives. They have seen Step Snot twice, briefly in the past 10 years, and they have spoken to her just a few times by phone under direct audio supervision. And yet their attempts at "meddling" and "interfering" and "undermining" are on going..
Now they are trying to "sneak" to have communication with her over the internet on Yahoo messenger!! I checked her yahoo today and saw a "buddy invite" from DH's little brothers wife saying "Don't tell your mom and dad that I sent you this!" Who does she think she is?? She is just the spouse of a family member!! I just deleted it..
Step Snot doesn't even remember these people from when she was little! She remembers them vaguely from the two brief times she saw them but she has no memory of them at all from when she was little. She never talks about them or expresses any interest in having anything to do with them..
If they wanted to "talk" to her then they should have behaved like adults and gone to my DH..Not tried to "sneak" behind his back or ask Step Snot to "keep secrets" for her father. And what the hell does his brothers wife have to do with anything anyway??
"The Others" (as I refer to my in laws) are a weird bunch of people..I just don't get it..