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The Misunderstanding....

disgusted's picture

Step Snot walked up to me in the kitchen on Friday night to inform me that she needs new gym clothes and gym shoes...I just looked at her like she was crazy and said, " Talk to your father about that."

So, DH sits down at the table with Step Snot...I am overhearing the entire conversation but going about my business like I am not paying attention...I know it was something I was meant to hear but I just played it off to avoid his attempts to drag me into the conversation. I know DH was trying to "dig" me because I blew off his darling and told her to go to him about clothes...

At, any rate, he tells apologizes to HER (not me) for "making disgusted the bad guy" and it's his fault for asking my "permission" to spend money on her. "I don't need to ask disgusteds permission to spend money on you, buy you clothes, or take you to the salon to get your hair done." I could feel her staring at me and smirking but I didn't give her the satisfaction of looking at her I just did my thing and ignored the conversation entirley. (Inside my blood was boiling so high that I am suprised my eye's didn't pop out of my head and land on the kitchen floor.)

Bright and early Saturday morning, before DH and Step SNot were awake, I took my 17 year old daughter out on her off day to the clothing stores and the salon and dropped 200 euro on her. We both got our hair cut and colored at the salon and we went out to lunch. It was a wonderful mother daughter day that we havn't enjoyed together in far to long.

When we came home I could tell that Step Snot was all "offended" when she our new hair do's and the bags of clothes...She had that snotty and put out look on her face...I couldn't resist ...when her dad wasn't looking I gave her a "smirk"...

I could tell DH was pissed but I just played it off and ignored it.. Finally, DH says to me, "You didn't say anything about going out shopping or going to the salon.You should have discussed it with me first!" To which I replied, in front of Step Snot. "Oh, I thought it was established last night per your conversation with Step Snot that we didn't have to ask one anothers permission to spend money on our daughters."

His mouth dropped open but what could he say??? I'd just served him up his own words on a silver plater with a mint garnish for his feasting pleasure!! LOL..

Now poor Step Snot has to wait a few more weeks to get herself clothes and go to the salon because I spent it on my daughter and myself! Perhaps, DH will think next time before saying something so stupid to his daughter at the table in front of me huh?

After all, it's not about "asking permission"..Its about the common courtesy of discussing it with me, where and how our money is to be spent because it's OUR money and we are supposed to be "partners" in this marriage. Discussing it, as partners, should would have spared DH and Step Snot from the "misunderstanding" that took place yesterday! LOL..

I love feeding his own words back to him!

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byebye's picture

I like your style, disgusted. I can also see that you have insomnia like me, given the hour!

disgusted's picture

Actually, no it isn't insomnia...I am currently living in Germany which is a 9 hour difference from the Pacific...It was actually around 11 am my time when I wrote my blog..LOL..

In a perfect world their would be retroactive abortion capabilities. ~ disgusted

Most Evil's picture

Boy, that was a dumb thing for him to say! hope he learned his lesson }:)

"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin

BMJen's picture

it's not about needing permission. It's the right thing to do! You can't just go blow money that the whole family uses on on person without discussing it with your spouse.

I love the way you handled that! LOL!!!!

And the smirk, great!

bewitched's picture

"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere

Oh, I got the smirk from my very own SD17 StepSnot (because i shouldn't use the real work I have in mind for her-or for H, for that matter.). After she told her father I'd said my friends laughed over the matchy matchy shoes. She was in the backseat, smirking away, while he yelled at me because I told my friends.!!! Now today, he wants to know whats wrong with me.

What is wrong with me. Let me count whats wrong. 1. I married a total selfish a$$. 2. The total selfish as has a total selfish a$$ 17 y.o. d.

And I've received two rejection letters on the jobs I'm trying to get.

disgusted's picture

I'm sorry to hear about your rejection letters. Trust me, I know how depressing it is to be in your position and want out of a marriage so badly...That's why I returned to school at 34 and now have my Masters in criminal justice..I know that, no matter what, I will always be able to take care of myself and MY babies..I am proud of you for trudging on with school and work..

Perhaps you should to out and buy yourself and your son each an expensive matching shirt! LOL...Then when hubby starts yelling say "Gee, whats wrong?" He and his oldest both sound like royal butt holes!

In a perfect world their would be retroactive abortion capabilities. ~ disgusted

Not My Real Mom's picture

Good for you! I like you technique. I wish I had a daughter so I could do that with her right in front of DH and SD16. Maybe I'll try it with my neice. I already stick it to SD16 by saying good morning to SS16 and nothing to her. She gets all insulted. Once she asked me why I don't give her money like DH does. For all the crap she puts me through and she has the nerve to ask that? I'd give her a quarter to buy a clue but she can ask DH for it.

“When all else fails, get a dog.”

disgusted's picture

Tell her that you don't give her money like DH does because your saving to get her some quality Luggage and a Bus Ticket for her 18th birthday..LOL...

I told my DH a few years ago that Step Snot (who lives with us full time) turns 18 I am buying her Luggage and a Bus Ticket..He thinks I am joking...I'm not..

In a perfect world their would be retroactive abortion capabilities. ~ disgusted

imagr8tma's picture

Way to go. Stick it to him like he tried to do with you. Ha Ha Ha.

I would have loved to see the look on his face and sd face. That is soooo great.

Razamond's picture

I like it - good work, throw his own words back at him. I pulled my money from the joint account completely - oops no more of MY money to spend on SD. So now - go ask your BM or better yet go ask DH - 'cause SD only talks to em when she wants something r she just gets a chance to be hateful/nasty

disgusted's picture

This snot has had that smirk since she was four..I used to call it "the brat smile"...Step Snots BM bailed when she was 3 and hasn't been heard from since so the smirk she didn't get from her..I think she got it from being spoiled rotten and babied by DH's psycho family..

Dh's gene pool and DH created this snotty monster...

In a perfect world their would be retroactive abortion capabilities. ~ disgusted

KittyKat's picture

THAT is one of the things that calmed my adult SDs down BIG TIME....when they saw the CLASSY times I had with MY OWN daughter (now 16....she was only 11 when the SDs came into my life, so my own D was just a "little girl" that they could disregard...

When they saw all the "mother/daughter" things I was able to do with HER (take her shopping and to lunch, take her to Florida, take her to NYC for a Broadway show) that I could NEVER do with them because they would cause a SCENE, MY!! how their behavior started to change! And they could cry to "daddy" all they wanted, but they knew the FACTS...they were too IMMATURE and RIDICULOUS for me to do those kinds of things with....

Leave her on the outside looking in, disgusted...enjoy your OWN D...Snotface will have NO CHOICE but the SHAPE UP or ship out (and whine to "daddy" her whole life....that will get old FAST)

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."-Eleanor Roosevelt

disgusted's picture

Yep, thats exactly what I do..To be honest, I don't even like to do "family things" that include her rotten little butt! I do them for the other kids and for DH..His brat of a demond spawn can kick rocks for all I care..I just ignore her entirly unless speaking to her, dealing with her, or acknowledging her existance can not be avoided..

This Thursday "Twilight" is playing for the first time on this small Army post in Rural Bavaria...It's a huge deal on this post, let me tell ya!!! The moms and their daughters have been talking about it and waiting anxiously for it to play here since it came out in the states in November...

I am taking MY daughter..Then I invited my fellow Army Wives to bring there daughters for a big mother daughter get together with our friends! We are going to dinner first and then taking all the girls to the movies...

Guess who wasn't invited??? I'd rather be boiled in a vat of Crisco then take that little wench!

In a perfect world their would be retroactive abortion capabilities. ~ disgusted

Tara12's picture

I got a good laugh out of this post girl. What is good for the goose is good for the gander!!! LOL! Bet your hair looks GREAT!

disgusted's picture

It's the nicest hair do I have ever had..And every time I look at it in the mirror...I smile..LOL..

In a perfect world their would be retroactive abortion capabilities. ~ disgusted