This is my first day on StepTalk and I am grateful to have found it. The issue I have been having with SD has been eating at me, and although I have talked to numerous friends and family, I get conflicting advice. However, here, everyone seems to understand as we all have similar issues. It hurts that during the past ten years I have believed that my SD and I had a decent relationship. I have treated her with respect and have made every effort to build a healthy relationship with both she and my SS. Of course there have been issues over the years, as in any blended family, but I didn't think I would be dealing with issues that would normally be expected with much younger children. My SS is almost 30 and SD is 27, so they were both out of high school when my DH and I started dating. We didn't marry for 7 years. I knew she had been a spoiled child, as I knew her long before her parents divorced. Then a few weeks ago, she had asked her father if she could use our home for a "get away" with some of her clients, while we would be away. I had an issue with that. I don't like strangers in my house. However, after much discussion with my DH, I agreed, however, asked her to cut it short by one day. Her immediate reaction was to play the Daddy card (at 27 !! - "Dad said I can"), and when I put my foot down and said, no, I am not comfortable with that, she turned on me, in public, and told me that I was f'd up, and meant nothing more to her than a piece of dirt on the bottom of her shoe. DH was there,but said nothing. SD stormed out of the restaurant, and DH followed, but I am not sure what conversation followed. He was angry at me!! It was shortly after then, that I called in a very large loan that she has owed me for three years, which she has made absolutely no effort to repay.Now all hell has broken loose, and both my DH and I are hurting tremendously. She obviously is a spoiled brat who is not used to hearing NO. And she is very good at manipulating and making her Dad feel guilty about the divorce.(It ruined her life)
I am glad there is a forum like this to vent, and receive feedback from others who understand.