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FINALLY met with SD and had "The Talk"

Decieved's picture

Well, we finally got together in person, and it actually went well. We had dinner (she came to my location --we live about three hours apart) - so that was a good start. I still have to question her sincerity given how she has continued to deceive me in the past. Her apology appeared to be heartfelt, or she is a very good actress - still not sure which, but time will tell. We worked out an agreement on our loan issue, and if she holds to her word, I should be repaid in full within the next six months, no more.
She said that she blamed alot on me that she should not have, and we discussed the fact that she needs to stop blaming - period. Its been ten years, and she cannot blame everything in her life on her parents divorce. She actually agreed that its time she grew up.
Well, like I said, time will tell. Keep you all posted Smile

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starfish's picture

good luck, i hope she was sincere.... tell her to blame Bush, everybody else does!

SammyJo58's picture

God,I so hear you on that one.....my 25 yr old SD accused me in writing of childish behaviour and said that being 51 and all, I should be the grown up one....yet she continues to treat me with such absolute disrespect and deliberately goes out of her way to hurt me. :sick:

"The fact that none of my SD's can even get their shit together enough to avoid giving the appearance that they despise me only tells me that they don't care about their father." You took the words right out of my mouth.....and DH is flying out to visit with her and his two grandkids.....says all he cares about is having a relationship with his grandkids. I'm beginning to wonder - at what cost? If my marriage is on the negotiation table on that one, then we have a real problem.

Start my counselling tomorrow afternoon - should be interesting to say the least.

SammyJo58's picture

Yes, StepAside, I've decided that if separate vacations once a year is what it takes, then so be it.....
I've heard from some members of my husband's family that he plans on talking to SD and her husband about how badly they've been treating me....sure would love to be on fly on THAT wall if and when the talk goes down.

It will be very interesting to see if there is any change in the dynamic when he returns from his vacation with them. In the meantime, I'm going to party in New Orleans and have some FUN for a change! Biggrin