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dazed's picture

I have lived with my BF for a short period say 3 months in my ONE BED flat becuase he lost his job as a landlord in a pub.He also stayed at his sisters a bit but as little as possible and she's on benefit,could lose this if found out he's staying there.He eventually loses jobs (pub work) or leaves them.He is forceful and winds people (employers) up or lies in bed in his accomodation above the pubs.On Tue night he stays at mine,I go to work,he lies in bed all day at my house.I never get so much time for lie ins at weekends as his son's there.Now he thinks he MIGHT lose this job.He wants to live at mine again 'till he gets a job.I told him when I took the flat I would have little money to live on.The council tax in the UK is large and increases by 25% for each additional person.He tries to get me to wriggle out of this.Part of me wants to help him,but it's the expense (and food).He is bad with bills too.His son stayed at his sisters with us every wknd last time he was with me but I'm not sure how long that would go on.I don't want his son staying at mine every weekend and going to bed at 11 pm+++, controlling the TV etc.And he'd have to stay in the living room.I'm just worried.

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ColorMeGone2's picture

Remind me again why he's your BF and not your ex-BF?

♥ Georgia ♥

"Good men don't just happen. They have to be created by us women." (from ROSEANNE)

dazed's picture

Ha ha I know, I know and I know you won't let this one go Smile
I am often confused and have a push between what I feel I should do as a GF e.g am I being fair and another part of me that just isn't happy.I just told him actually that I don't think stay at mine evry day 'cos of the Council Tax.He said 'is that all you think about' and said he might be able to stay at his sisters (I think 'cos she is getting ill, he could be her carer).I don't know if this will really happen or how it will work out.

sarahbernheart's picture

dazed, I understand that you have a good heart and you care for him but if he truly cared for you and your well being would he ask you to make all these sacrifices?
I have a FH and we do not live together, he has asked but I made it clear that until he straightens out his 18 y/o attitude NO can do.
and it is hard on him with money too.
but he would never ask me to sacrifice myself-my well being or my finacial situation just for him.
really please think long and hard.

“You will never be on top of the world
if you try to carry it on your shoulders.”