Adult step kids

Anyone else dealing with disrespectful adult kids. That know no boundaries, help before I’m wearing stripes please. Ready to lose it

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Usually the problem is really

Usually the problem is really the spouse who won't set boundaries or who fails to make sure the kid has the skills to launch.

And there is way too much fear of "upsetting the kids."

And there is way too much

And there is way too much fear of "upsetting the kids."

Ding ding ding ding but who cares if we are upset. These kids should be living their own lives.

I made it very clear to my DH as long as his kids were rude and disrespectful to me they weren't welcomed in my life and that included my home. If DH didn't like it he could take a hike. No way am I going to live unhappy or in turmoil because of the way his adult kids act.

Stripes/Straitjacket

Usually SM's end up with one of these designer items.

Is your DH on the same page as you and realizes that they are disrespectful and lack boundaries. The key to peace is having DH support you and ensure that his kids are treating you appropriately.

I’ve tried being polite ,

I’ve tried being polite , biting my tongue , ect , now I’m just going to be blunt and to the point. Especially when they feel the need to give there friends the grande tour of our home. Including our bedroom. Never knock before they enter house. Or if doors are locked. They just use there key to come on in. Locked are changed now. Hubby is backing me for most part. But I feel like the naggy wife. We get Along so good. Until his kids ruffle shit up with us. Big time little wife and daddy issues.

It all comes down to having a

It all comes down to having a husband who is not a spineless a$$. After some years of trying I banned SS33 and his GF from my life. They are not allowed to set foot in my home. I've blocked them on FB and my phone. THEY DO NOT EXIST.

And my DH has accepted this and has not made one single comment about me trying to accept them back into my life. My DH is not weak. He's not a weakling who just submits to what I demand - but even he knows how egregious their behavior was and that there are no excuses for their actions. So he doesn't try to make excuses or to get me to change my mind.

But I do not go on about how worthless these two are. If DH wants to say something about how well SS is doing I just sort of nod and change the subject. There are probably a 100 digs I could make monthly about how horrid SS is, but I just keep my mouth shut.

You're not alone, come on

You're not alone, come on over to the Adult Stepchildren Forum.

Did you see there is a forum

Did you see there is a forum just for Adult Stepkids? You will find lots of stuff there to turn your stomach. I think anyone contemplating marrying someone with adult kids needs to see how enmeshed the bio parent is with adult children. If he is a buddy rather than a parent, afraid of conflict and buries his head in the sand, a potential step parent can expect marriage and life to suck....that is unless you are ok with your marriage being held hostage by adult kids who should be worried about themselves.

People assume that only young kids are upset about dad getting remarried. Nope, mine were almost 30 and the poor babies were not ready for dad to remarry after he had been divorced 6 years.

Adult skids are smarter and more devious than younger skids; they like bonding with others against a common target. The SM is a very easy one.

Where do I find this adult

Where do I find this adult step kid forum , I need all the help I can get right now. I’m not going to bite my tongue for much longer and I know when I spin off. I’m pretty sure I’ll be packing

Just go to the StepTalk

Just go to the StepTalk homepage, click on "forums," then scroll down through the list of topics until you get to "Adult Stepchildren." Click on that and that's where this crew responding to your post usually hangs out!

I never felt good in my husband's home. It was a tiny, tiny city home. SD had barely ever lived there (she was away at college when he bought it and had lived with BM most of the time), and yet she had the biggest bedroom with a beautiful bedroom furniture and, what else?, a QUEEN BED!

Meanwhile, my husband and I were sleeping full-time in a bedroom half the size of SD's in a full-sized bed with his ratty old bed linens and just one tiny little window! I couldn't believe he would keep this empty bedroom of hers like a shrine while we were crammed in that tiny space. When she would come there, which was rare, she'd ask HIM if she could borrow MY stuff! To top it off, BM moved out of the country and SD forwarded BM's mail to OUR house!

I feel for your situation. It's hard to feel ownership when there are so many people who think they own the place. It's also weird that these "adults" don't feel any deference to you.

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