Way to go DH
I am so proud of DH. My MIL called to talk to DH about Christmas. She told him that BM is angling to be invited to Christmas dinner. According to MIL, BM is only willing to let the SDs come to Christmas dinner if BM, BigWeirdo (her husband), and there other 3 kids can attend. DH told MIL in no uncertain terms that he will not show up if she invites them. I was so happy. His exact words, "That is disrespectful to me and especially to my wife." MIL told DH that she hadn't invited them, but wanted him to know. DH got off the phone with MIL and called BM. He told her that the CP set out the terms for Christmas. He would be following those papers to the letter and if she had a problem, he would get the police to enforce it.
I shouldn't be shocked but I can't believe BM actually thought she should be invited to Christmas dinner at her ex's house. BM is constantly telling me that she is still family to DH's parents since she gave them the SDs. Whatever. At least DH took care of this immediately.
Anyone else deal with a BM who tries to get invited to family celebrations? I just find the whole thing so bizarre.
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Yes... I have experienced
Yes... I have experienced this many times! Way tooo many.
just off of the top of my head..
1) BM came to MSD's 6th B-Day party (uninvited) very awkward but no biggie.. BM didn't come here for the party, BM went through the house and collected things that she thought were hers. SD said mommy so many times SD had to call BM by her first name to get her attention to get a hug. BM sat in the car until her XSD was ready to go as he was inside visiting the kids.
2) MIL brought BM here with her to my house when DH was at work!!! I knew MIL was coming to drop off some mail for DH but here is BM storming in the door like she owns the place. BM said she wanted to say hi to 3yo (at the time) SD. I said I would go get her, she had just laid down for a nap. BM proceeds to walk through my house like she didn't hear me. BM started to go into my bedroom until she realized I was right behind her, so made a b-line for the entertainment center. I came out with SD and BM was going through CD's and DVD's. SD was standing right behind BM tugging on her shirt and saying mommy to get her attention. I was standing halfway across the living room. I said loudly, "maybe she didn't hear you, *BM's name* SD is trying to say hi to you. BM turned around, gave her a hug, and proceeded to go through things on the entertainment center. MIL was standing in the living room doorway doing or saying nothing.. I'm just looking at her like WTF. MIL finally said "I thought you wanted to say hi to SD" BM.. Still going through the stuff.. I told BM "I really don't think you should be going through those things without DH here" BM "I was just looking for" I cut her off repeating the same. BM turned around and started walking towards the door.
3) BM wasn't invited to MSD's birthday party. boo effing hoo. You must not remember how you acted when you invited yourself last year. This was a huge deal. BM didn't want to come b/c she wanted to be here for the SD that ruined her life, BM just wanted to be in my home.
4) first Christmas together.. BM only had SD's 9 hours on Christmas day.. BM could have had them the 9 hours + 10 days but nope.. show mom only wanted the 9 hours on Christmas day. BM took SD's to all of DH's relative's homes to collect all gifts, Knowing that we have Christmas dinner here every year and the gifts would have been brought to our home. BM gave SD's those same items to SD's for Christmas the following year.
Good for your DH. We stopped hosting things at our home b/c of this and some other crazy stuff. Some of these BM's don't understand that we are not one big happy effing family.
W-O-W You are a better person
W-O-W
You are a better person than I am, if either BM came in my house, for any reason it wouldn't end well for them. If I ever caught them looking threw our things I would have inflicted a strong reminder to mind your own buisness of which we are not.
You got a BM with balls bigger than Texas, bless your heart.
I was waiting for MIL to say
I was waiting for MIL to say something. I quickly realized MIL wasn't on my side. My after thought of that situation was.. if I were BM, I would have been scooping up the pictures of my kids that I had put up all over the walls and displayed on the entertainment center.. not cd's and dvd's. Maybe I'm different but I would have chosen sentiments over material items any day.
When I moved in these pictures were under dressers, on the front porch, in cabinets.. I was like what's the point in having them if they aren't going to be displayed. lol.