DH tried to get SD to pick up after herself but I end up with more work.
Here’s the last stupid drama with SD (who’s 17).
DH has been on SD about picking up after herself in the bathroom and not leaving wet towels and clothes on the floor. IMO, at least she’s showering. DH told her a few weeks ago, if she doesn’t pick up the clothes, he was going to throw them out. She didn’t pick up so he put everything he found on the floor in the bathroom in a large trash bag, put it in the garage and told her that he threw it out. SD didn’t care.
Fast forward to this Friday. SD’s special education teacher sent him an email about his daughter wearing dirty clothing and also wearing pajamas to school in violation of the dress code. Her teacher had asked SD about it and SD had told her that her dad threw away all her clothes, so her teacher was like “umm, what's going on?”
DH went out to the garage to wash the clothes in the trash bag since SD didn’t have anything else to wear. But all the clothes were entirely moldy and gross since he hadn’t just put the clothes in the bag, but also wet towels. So everything had to be thrown out.
Which means another shopping trip. Oh joy. SD has sensory processing disorder so she’s overly sensitive to anything itchy and cannot tolerate tight fitting clothing. A few years ago it was a huge ordeal finding clothing for her school uniform after she had been expelled from regular high school and had to go to the alternative school. We finally had found some khaki pants she actually can wear and she had 5 pairs of those pants so she had been good on school clothes.
Some of those pants had already been ruined because SD is bad about wearing tampons or pads during her period, so she was down to 3 pairs of those pants. And guess what was in the trash bag DH put in the garage?
So we’ve spent this weekend trying to find new clothing SD can tolerate wearing. The stupid trend in juniors pants are all tight fitting legging style pants which SD refuses to wear. She’s very small (she’s under 5’0) so we’re trying to find petite women’s clothes but still can’t find those very soft seamless khaki pants that she had. And after about an hour at Kohls in the dressing room trying to find something that she’ll tolerate wearing, she had a meltdown and screamed and yelled rolling around on the floor for about 15 minutes.
I’ve resorted to searching ebay to see if anyone is selling used pants like were ruined – but no luck so far finding them in SD’s size.
During SD’s meltdown in the dressing room at Kohls she was screaming at the top of her lungs “I hate you! I hate you!” over and over. There’s part of me that just want to give up and say “f*** it”. None of this is appreciated and that's what's pissing off DH. SD doesn't care if he buys her clothes or not. He's spent hundreds of dollars on special sensory friendly clothing and she refused to wear it.
DH has no ability to deal with this – he wants to just tell her to wear what he buys and thinks her sensory issues are ridiculously stupid and SD just needs to get over it and wear normal clothing. But he goes to work before SD leaves for school, so I’m the one who has to deal with the meltdowns when she has to get dressed for school and her teachers have to deal with her meltdowns at school over sensory issues.
Oh, and the bathroom floor currently is littered with clothing and towels. Is SD going to pick it up? Nope. And if DH throws out everything again - it's more work for me trying to find clothes SD will wear.