So this was my Christmas
Christmas morning DD is 4 so of course she woke up early and wanted to open presents. But SD(16) said she didn’t feel good and wouldn’t get up out of bed. We waited and waited and it got to be about an hour before we needed to go to church and SD still wouldn’t get up.
A few hours later, we had missed the last church service and SD still refused to get out of bed and complained about her head and stomach hurting. We went ahead and opened presents without her.
My mom was going to have Christmas dinner at 5pm, but with us running late, that was delayed -inconveniencing everyone. By 4pm, we realized there was no possible way we wanted to deal with SD at Christmas dinner even if DH did drag her over there. So DH stayed home with SD while I took DD over to my mom’s for Christmas dinner.
Then that evening DH texted me that SD was having a major meltdown so I left DD over at my parents’ house to spend the night to avoid her having to come back home to more drama with SD.
More and more DH can’t do things with DD because of SD. It’s unfair to DD that her dad can’t be there for important family moments because of SD’s issues.
SD’s psychiatrist switched one of her meds a few weeks ago and there were potential short term side effects but the way SD acts no one can tell exactly what’s the cause of why all the complaints that she doesn’t feel good or if she is just using it as an excuse.
SD was supposed to call her mom on Christmas Eve, but her mom backed out of it so that probably was a factor in her behavior but that makes it even harder to figure out if the new medication is or isn’t working.
SD has been using the excuse she doesn't feel good constantly at school to avoid even sitting at her desk or doing any homework. Since the beginning of the school year every day we have been receiving multiple emails from her teachers about SD's excuses that day. So this is a reoccurring issue and DH had scheduled doctor appointments this week hoping his schedule at work would be light - but it's not. There's a job his boss wanted to get done by Friday so DH has had to take unpaid time off to take SD to see a neurologist and gastroenterologist. But it's terrible timing with the med changes since there's no clear answers about whether the problems are just side effects. So it's been a waste of time and money and we're no closer to any improvements in SD's behavior.
I wish this didn't impact DD so much since it's ruined her Christmas to have SD whining and complaining constantly and preventing DH and I both taking DD places or having any quality family time. All this week I've been taking DD out to run errands or go to movies in the evening because I want to avoid being at home and having to deal with SD.