Your fighting for what's right for your little buddy. I wish it were over & you had won today, I hate being in limbo. I wish you didn't have to go through all this, BM is more than enough for 1 family to put up with.

I am so tired of the court system sending people to mediation because they don't want to make a decision, or judgment. It turns into a circus wheel of try this...then that...how about this one...until someone throws in the towel financially tapped, less money to go toward the kid, and more in the pockets of attys, and other court assigned professionals.

This case is quite simple. His motives are obvious. And your son has no interest in seeing him. Why can't anyone act on that? Where is the "best interest of the child" served here? By forcing him to "get to know" a BF who was never interested until he actually was held financially responsible?

Where the hell has he been all these years? Why does he show up now when they finally start garnishing for CS, and act interested in seeing his son? Oh...perhaps because he feels that he should be getting something for his money, OR because he wants to punish you.

I'm sorry CG. I remember all to well our FIVE pre-trial hearings, DH having to take off work, me having to find a sitter, only to go there, sit across from a nervous, bitter, and even though she exuded discomfort at the situation, a smug smile would appear on her face every so often thinking she would win just because she is a BM.

NEVER even got back to a court room.

Then have BM cave, at 4 pm the night before we finally had a real trial date, due to the GAL's recommendation DH have FC, including SD's psychologist's insinuation that there just wasn't something quite right about BM, which would have likely resulted in our request for a psych consult FINALLY being granted.

Yes we "won." But the cost, financial and emotional, is tough to recover from. I understand they don't wish to rush to judgment. But honestly, I think custody makes them so squeamish they don't want to bother making a judgment at all. And all that procrastination does feed them lots o- dough.

Love you CG. Hug your son. Remember that Life is Really GOOD.

"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra

do that! Maybe it's a good thing? Hopefully he will just give up. Maybe he'll get bored with the whole thing. I am sorry you are so blue My thoughts are with you today!

My DH's ex always showed up to court in a nappy t-shirt and sometime pajama bottoms or overly stretched tights that looked like thet belonged to the skids and would barely go past her knees. She is also a hairdresses but she never wore makeup or had her hair fixed. It always looked like she fell out of bed and climbed in the car.

If he keeps going out of the country then when does he even expect to see his son?

~Don't fear the thorns among the Roses, but be greatful for the Roses among the thorns~

Flip side.......while going through mediation you will find out and can feed it to your attorney so you guys can get a good game plan cause i am betting that mediation doesn't take care of the issue here- or maybe (since he's obviously a slacker-cheap slacker-sorry couldn't help the bad punn) he will give up whatever his problem is when he realizes how much effort it is gonna take for him to go through mediation(atleast a few meetings and it looks bad that he won't be there- and let's hope he forgets)! you are doing everything for your son and thats whats important!

start your weekend early and have a drink- and one for me too!

There is no reason where logic does not exist

We can help you on our getaway weekend get prepared! YAY!

Sweetheart, you are fighting for your son! Take this decision just like I do everytime the courts prolong things for Madi. It is more time on my side, more time for things to stay how they are... in your favor. It is a long drawn out process. The good thing is the mediator will be able to see his unreasonableness (is that even a word?) and it is just an attempt at making headway without going to court. When it does not work, you will have a judge oversee and favor for you.

Have you (or do you) have a therapist for your son? Alot of times the professional opinion that he is well adjusted and thriving and this individual coming into his life and causing a distrubtion would be detrimental to his mental well being sometimes plays a significant role in the decidion process.

In the meantime, do not get down. I know how easy it to say that and then trying to actually do it is impossible. Think of today as a win for you because your ex did not get his way. Chin up... do something nice for yourself today... or hang out with your kids. Remember what you are fighting for. And if you need some cheering up, I am just a phone call away. PM me here or on myspace and I will send you my number. Hugs!

"I didn't lose my mind, I sold it on ebay."

Hang in there CG. I'm sorry you're in limbo right now, but like GC said, it's more time for you and your son to just be normal. I hope everything works out for you.

Don't worry yourself about it, they won't let your little guy far from you xx

Catch xx
*Mean People Suck*

Nothing in court goes fast enough,they seem be in no hurry to get anything done,ever,hang tight,your Ex probably has no intentions of anything just wants to cause trouble and break your bank doing it.
I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

CG - have you had your atty draw up an offer to waive all child support and arrears for termination of rights - alot of time these men start shit hoping you will be scared and drop the child support against them - he may want to sign away his rights but knowing the shithead he is he doesn't want it to come from him. HE wants to say you made him.
MY e paid child support every single month - not much - but he paid - the second i served him with papers to terminate his rights voluntarily he jumped at the chance. his only gripe - i had to take out the part of the petition saying he had no emotional bond - hadn't seen his daughter in 7 years (HE lives less than 10 miles away) nor has spoken to her in that long - once i removed that verbage from the petition he signed it faster than lightning. It was filed into court MOnday - his rights should be gone within two weeks (thats how long it took when we did the same for me to adopt my son (Previous stepson)

HIs mother never consented - but never protested either.

A side note - that ex told me he would always get what he paid for - i took away the balance due and thats all it took - he never wanted to see her to begin with - he just didn't want to pay support.

this man sued me for custody and the judge said no - reviewd his employment records and arrears and he ended up paying me 3/4 of my arrears to drop the custody suit he filed against me.