Independent Cutoff
So I have been wondering - for those in the know - what is the catchup cutoff for independent study if the kid is failing their online classes?
Graduation is looming - May 31 at 4:30. I just want to know if I should use my vacation time or not? SD17 Powersulk is failing all her online classes, and its almost 3 weeks until G-day. Somehow she hasnt recieved her cap and gown (mysterious), and doesnt know about who shes inviting or what she wants to do for graduation...like dinner or hangouts w friends.
Husband is communicationg (somewhat) about this but doesnt "know anything except early last tuesday there was a meeting about it...with Toxic Troll and Powersulk and counselors".
Im on the outside here...
update***husband asked the question and the counselor is deferring to the teachers.
Update****I did mention to husband that SD Powersulk ultimately would know the answer to this question. He responds that he will ask her...
Update***** Cut off is May 24. Wow.
Update****** Im fuming mad right now, not at all disengaged. 4 freaking years for nothing. Actually 10 years of f@cked parenting that i had to sit by and watch. Eff it all. So just over all the crap. MAy 24...eff that it should all be done already. It should all be done by this weekend. I work and watch the lazy bones talk and laugh and go off with friends...
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Frankly, I wouldn't concern
Frankly, I wouldn't concern myself with it. If you find out too late to take time off to go, oh well.
I want him to feel some stress and pressure
Other than that, I would like to know - to be prepared.
Im taking 1/2 day. I can always cancel day before unless I feel I deserve an early weekend...
Don't waste your time off.
Don't waste your time off. You weren't notified, not your problem AND not your monkey...
Formality
Ill just decide closer to "the end"
if it's a no go then you have
if it's a no go then you have half a day to go out and try a new restaurant.
Did 8.66 miles yesterday
might just take the whole day off to adventure...
Exactly this!
Exactly this!
Not your monkey, not your
Not your monkey, not your circus. The only reason I'd plan time off is to do something for myself and most certainly NOT for the possibility of that twit maybe graduating.
Im fuming mad right now
time to channel that into cleaning my house and backyard...
And powersulk was supposed to be BETTER than her sister feral forger.
Honey, powersulk and feral
Honey, powersulk and feral forger are cut from the same cloth.
Nope
Not your problem. I would not even entertain attending that girl's graduation after what she's done to you. If you take the day off, take it off for YOU. Let your DH attend his kid's graduation. Do something useful with your time.
Frankly I'm surprised the
Frankly I'm surprised the cutoff isn't 10 seconds before they call her name at graduation (with a three month "grace period"). There just aren't any standards anymore.
CLove & I are in the same state.
And there's a good chance PowerSulk will miraculously be able to graduate after all. Grades will myseriously change, averages will get fiddled with, and she'll get through by the skin of her teeth. Regardless, you need to let go of any expectations surrounding this "milestone" as it's only one of many PowerSulk will never meet.
I went through something similar with YSD. She wasn't doing independent study, because DH and I would never have allowed it, but we lived in the district of one of the top schools in our region. Known for academic rigor, but they also had ways of dealing with subpar kids so their stellar performance ratings wouldn't be affected. YSD did NOT deserve to graduate, and I was shocked to be told there was no mechanism in place to hold failing seniors back, so she got to wear her cap and gown and graduate.
You're living the aphorism "Water seeks its own level". Your H and his ex are who they are and have raised their daughters to be below average as well. Your huge heart recognized the potential in your H's daughters so you mourn what could have been, but these people are working out their own karma. You married into generational trauma mixed with the aftermath of substance abuse; the kids are collateral damage and you will be as well if you don't learn the art of detachment.
So, let the farce play out, CLove. Observe these dummies as they do what they do. They are not your people and this poo was practically preordained so zero reason to get upset about it.
there's a good chance
there's a good chance PowerSulk will miraculously be able to graduate after all.
And if that happens, CLove should not expect an invitation. Honestly, after all of powersulk's crap, she doesn't deserve CLove's presence or even congratulations. If powersulk is be allowed to graduate simply because that's how it seems to work these days, CLove's response should be limited to an emotionless "that's nice".
I wouldn't
Burn good PTO on an ingrate's "graduation."
None of this can be a
None of this can be a surprise to you Clove
1. Online classes were a disasterous idea for her. It isn't even her fault.. she is simply incapable of doing the work independently at her age. I told you to when the idea came up what a problem it would be.. and now.. voila.. problem.
2. The fact that your husband is not more aware and capable of managing this problem is no shocker either. This is his kid.. and they both seem lazy and unmotivated people.. your husband is further along in life and has figured out how to manage (marrying a person like you so he can sub out his worry)... but they aren't that different.. those two kids are products of their parents.. and your influence was not able to overcome genetics and parenting.(or lack thereof)
3. Don't ask for time off.. do you even want to go.. does she want you there...? probably NO on both counts.
4. You deserve more than a day off.. you deserve a life without all these buffoons and their buffoonery.
#4. SPOT ON!! Love the word
#4. SPOT ON!! Love the word buffoons!! Also Clove... this isn't a reflection on you. I'm sure you're embarrassed by your DH and his failed spawn. That's what you need to leave the buffoonery!
The school most likely want to get her out
Like never to see her again, they will pass her. Give her graduation, bid her a farewell. Or they will have 30 yo trying to passed for the 12 time .
Once again CLove. You care more than,,,, SD or her BIrth parents.
CLove just drop the rope, you
CLove just drop the rope, you are assuming you are even invited, she might not even give you a ticket.
IMO, CLove has gone
IMO, CLove has gone waaaaaaaay above and beyond for these losers. Even if invited (possibly hoping for a gift or $$$), she should decline.
And even if you do get a
And even if you do get a ticket, do you really want to spend hours of stultifying boredom potentially sitting amidst your DH, FF and TT. Think about the venom that might be unleashed...
Use your vacation day. For
Use your vacation day. For yourself.
On a day that is not the graduation.
As far as the graduation it doesn't matter. Yay or nay. Don't go either way. Book yourself a vacation at an Airbnb lakefront and go see a concert and something fun. This lady called cps on you and video taped you.
So why attend her so called graduation? I said "so called" for a reason.
She didn't earn the graduation and she didn't earn your respect, after all?
Are you worried that the
Are you worried that the "optics" of you not going would look bad? That you'll again be the bad guy and you don't want to give them that? I would personally rather the bad guy stance
"Oh CLove won't go to the graduation which PROVES she doesn't like me"
Oh well..... Sorry I was busy
You'd be better off talking
You'd be better off talking PTO then heading to the top school in your city graduating
At least you'll see people who are concerned about themselves, their careers, and their future.
Par for the course. Two
Par for the course. Two products of the same supply chain of material who went down the same parenting production line. How could the outcome have been anything but this?
Enjoy your hike.