My BSon is acting out.
My B-son has been in the past a hard child to handle. However, when I married my current husband his S-dad, he (after a a few months of talking and discipline) seemed to straighten up. I told him how proud I was that he was taking responsibility for his actions and how his behavior, when good, has good results. He seemed to understand. He was happy and was doing better in school. This continued for 3 to 4 months. We made sure to continue to praise his efforts and when he slipped, let him know we all make mistakes and not to let one thing destroy what he had worked so hard for.
Then I got a call form his school. He was being suspended for "faking" a punch toward the teacher behind her back. He has never been violent at school. He claims he was playing but that is an excuse. He was punished with extra chores and he lost the privelege of 6th grade camp.
This weekend he was well behaved at home. Monday was a holiday, Tues no problems but he got suspended today for 2 days for calling the teacher a bad name behind her back when she disciplined him and for making hickiey marks all up and down both arms. The vice Principal says this is similar to self mutilation and is a cry for help. What do I do??
When my husband talked to him (I was at work) He said he is dissappointed in himself because of a softball game he lost. He always thought himself to be the best at things and when he realized he wasn't, it hit him hard. I called his b-dad and asked him to take him for a few days while he is suspended. He said yes. My B-son doesn't want to go. I let him know that he has consequences for what he does. I am not trying to punish him with his b-dad but s-dad is going on a field trip with my other b-son and I don't think its fair that one get punished for the actions of the other.
I feel like I am a bad parent. I do not now know how to get through to him. He was doing so well. I was so proud. How can I help him to get to where he is being responsible and making better decisions. I hate this feeling of helplesness. I don't know how to help him.