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Finally someone else sees what BM really is!

Catlover's picture

DH and I went to SS's Parent teacher conference yesterday. BM usually schedules her own conference. SS it seems is worse than ever. Bullying other students, grades are slipping, and arguing w/ teacher in front of the class etc. His teacher is pulling her hair out due to his behavior. DH and I told teacher that we would address this on our end, but delicately stated that we could only control what happens in our home. We have been very careful not to speak negatively about BM to teachers because no matter how bad she is, we don't want them to be caught in the middle. The teacher did ask about this new placement schedule (with the skids going back and forth every other day between homes), and we were honest and told her that this was recommended by the GAL due to BM's work schedule. We told her we requested a week on week off schedule to aid in stability. When it came time to leave, DH asked the teacher if she needed to hang on to SS's folder for her conference with BM. Teacher sighed looked down and said in a very sarcastic tone "she never bothered to schedule conferences". Sounds mean, but YAAAAAAY. Finally, someone else sees her for what she is....DH and I have been so tired of making sure all the homework is caught up (they don't do their homework but BM signs off on their agenda that they did), and that they have lunches when BM fails to pay for their hot lunch (I had to run lunches over to them because their account was in a negative balance). Yet she is the first to show up for chaperoned activities etc and act like mom of the year. Finally the teacher gets what is going on here! Now if only the court system figured it out. Hey a girl can dream!

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TomFSD's picture

It's funny. I am a step dad with the same situation. BD is a "disneyland dad", literally. Between that and baseball games BD would not know how else to entertain him. Homework? Thats for mom's house. Read him a book? No time. watch a movie? Too boring (unless of course it is PG-13) SS is 5. SS comes home from school the other day and asks which theme park we are going to that afternoon. We tell him that if he eats his lunch and listens really good we'll go down the street to the park with slides and swings. His response? thats not fun, I want to go to disneyland. We don't even know what to do. A 5 year old with a sense of entitlement! Recently horrible tantrums when he doesn't get his way. We go to a conference with his preschool teacher (because of his VIOLENT behavior none the less) and teacher tells us she spoke with his father and he "instructed" her to make sure she meets all of his needs. ARE YOU KIDDING ME? Then he proceeds to tell us that this is our fault, if we would just buy him the things he wanted and "meet his needs" that his behavior would be fine. SS has picked up from his BF that telling mom to shut up is Ok. I'm not sure which one to smack upside the head!

Some people should have been castrated long ago......