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Annoying Phone Calls with SS9

CastleJJ's picture

So DH took his twice weekly Facetime call with SS9 tonight. I was hanging out in the living room when DH called. The level of entitlement and assholery that came out of that kid's mouth was astonishing. DH asked SS how school was going since Christmas break ended. SS9 said it was so stupid because he already "knew everything." He then proceeded to tell us that because some girl thought China was a state, the whole class had to review world geography and since he is "so smart" and already knew it, he shouldn't have had to review it because that girl was "stupid." DH told him that was rude because a few months ago, when SS was struggling with long division, nobody bullied him for being stupid and SS expected sympathy. SS ignored DH.

DH then asked him about how sports were going. SS said that his basketball team won the tournament. DH congratulated him. SS then proceeded to tell DH that it is important that he is on the best team that never loses. DH told him that sometimes the underdog teams that lose are better athletes because their wins mean more, since they had to work harder to earn their win. SS just rolled his eyes. 

DH proceeded to tell SS about the progress being made on the house. BM and GF kept drifting in and out of the background (yet we are the ones that eavesdrop). DH proceeded to tell SS about the cement for the basement and garage being poured and before we could get two words out, BM immediately interrupts and tells SS "Oh tell your Dad about the deal we made." SS immediately cut DH off and excitedly said "Oh yeah, BM and GF made me a deal that if I work out everyday to prepare for football and reach 80 lbs by my birthday this spring, BM and GF will buy me a huge chocolate bunny and an iPod." So now we are tying body weight expectations/body image to material goods... the kid is 9 and he is a perfectly healthy weight for his age. BM looked so proud in the background when SS told us. Funny thing is that SS asked BM for an iPod for Christmas and BM didn't buy it, saying that because SS doesn't believe in Santa anymore, he doesn't get "big gifts." DH thinks that BM knows SS won't reach that weight, so she won't actually have to buy the iPod. I told DH not to waste his time telling SS about the house anymore. DH agreed.

Clearly SS is growing up to be exactly like BM and GF - narcissistic and entitled. Everybody is either stupid or scrawny or weak, but SS, oh SS is the best at absolutely everything. He is going to find himself very lonely in life. Oh well, not my kid, not my problem and when BM and GF mess this kid up, they aren't dumping him on our door step. One thing is for certain, we won't be raising our daughter that way. 

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CastleJJ's picture

Oh I agree. I just wish it had more of an impact. Because we only see SS 6 weeks per year, our influence on his personality and attitude is very limited/almost nonexistent. 

ndc's picture

I guess the only good thing about that is that HIS influence on your properly raised child will also be limited. 

Winterglow's picture

I'd be tempted to call bm and gf out about the drifting in and out.

"Hey, son, don't they ever give you any privacy? "

"Hey, bm/gf, that's 7 times you've wandered in. You looking for something or just listening in? "

Let the chips fall where they will. Be blunt. Be direct. 

CastleJJ's picture

We used to call them out on it. It only led to pages and pages of email manifestos filled with excuses and gaslighting. It's not worth it. We have just learned to not share anything too personal with SS that we don't want BM or GF knowing. 

MissK03's picture

This is really sad for your SS. BM giving him a complex at such a young age about his weight and what he should look like will no doubt really mess with his self esteem. 

Even though BM and GF are wackos I don't know if I could not address BM on this IMO. 

Poor kid has no time to be a kid.