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ARE YOU SERIOUS $200 B-DAY GIFT IS NOT ENOUGH?

Cant take it anymore's picture

My BF's son's birthday was yesterday. BF bought him a $200 iPod. Later in the evening when BF was talking to son, BM got on the phone and asked BF if that was all he was getting him for his birthday! WTF? Is $200 not enough??? My response to BF was "You shold have said, if it wasnt for BF paying for all the extra's that she should be using child support for, that you could have got him more!" What a greedy bitch and she is teaching her son to be the same way instead of appreciating what he recieved.I have been telling the BF that he needs to set boundaries with her and that when she got on the phone and asked that question BF should not have entertained it. It was not dealing with school or medical concerns. She is a total bitch in every aspect. I have been with him for 5 years, but I really don't know if I can sign up for anymore. She pretty much controls him and he will not set her straight.

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Cant take it anymore's picture

He says he told her no, but I am betting he told her that he was getting something else. He is afraid if he doesn't do what she says that she will not allow him to see his son, even though there is court ordered visitation.

TheWife's picture

So the kid was okay with it but BM wasn't? What the hell did SHE get him?

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Rome wasn't built in a day, and my marriage won't be either.

Cant take it anymore's picture

She bought him clothes and I am sure it was not $200 worth. She is always complaining about not having any money.

Cant take it anymore's picture

Just found out that she bought him a t-shirt and pair of jeans and a $25 gift card.

Cant take it anymore's picture

The son told us that he loved it and that is what he had been asking for. He is sneaky so he might have told his mom differently, I hate to say that but it could be true.

MarriedwithChild's picture

Seriously (don't get pissed at me) ask yourself, wtf do they do for me? Or; better yet, wtf can/ will they do for me?

I feel for you with this guilty daddy and coddling bm crap. I just don't care anymore and have become way more demanding of my dh to do for THIS marriage.

soverysad's picture

LOL

"A pessimist complains about the wind, an optimist counts on the wind changing, a realist adjusts his sails"

Cant take it anymore's picture

I like that idea, I have already bought his stuff for an Easter basket (the same as I did for my kids) but maybe I should eat the candy myself and get him a pet rock to put in his basket!!

Torn's picture

OOOOHHH Yesss....I have been through that with my SD. during Christmas, birthdays, easters..she opens everything...looks around...and sits there looking completely miserable while our Biokids are thrilled. I know why she does this, shes not happy with anything that she gets. She always EXPECTS everything she has ever asked for, she EXPECTS EVERYTHING! There is zero fuc*ing appreciation. And God forbid that this ungrateful child say thank you once in a while.
Ohh that felt good to get that off my chest. wow.

~Never interrupt your enemy when she is making a mistake.~

~No-one can make you feel inferior without your consent.~

Amazed's picture

I bought my son an ipod touch and no other gifts. he asked me if I got him anything else so I promptly took the ipod touch and now I use it for myself and he has no ipod at all.

that's his lesson on where greed will get a person. losing his brand new ipod really put the greed thing into perspective for him and we haven't had a problem since...and he won't be getting that ipod back.

The bm sounds like a greedy bitch. she's needs to pull her head out of her ass and think about what she's saying before letting such drivel tumble from her lips.

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Cant take it anymore's picture

The BM tries to pull that stuff all the time with the BF. She asked him to pay for 1/2 of her sons class trip - no problem until she told us the price. It seemed a little high so I called the school and that was the full price. She was pissed cause I called. She was also attending the trip (her choice) so she said that was half!!!!NOT!!! Another example was asking for 1/2 of the school fees, even though in papers she is ordered to pay them the BF said he would pay half. I sent a check made out to the school for half. She was so pissed, she wanted cash and I am sure it was not going to be for the fees.

soverysad's picture

That is exactly my philosophy!!

"A pessimist complains about the wind, an optimist counts on the wind changing, a realist adjusts his sails"

Cant take it anymore's picture

Trust me, she is not smart at all!! She is always saying something that is really out there! I am just afraid of her making the son like that.

Amazed's picture

OMG I cannot stomach that show. I look at how tiny my wedding was and how inexpensive it was then i look at these women and I just want to vomit. SD12 will be EXACTLY like them...I pity H's bank account when it comes time for his little bridezilla to get hitched.

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"Venting without the desire to look within and improve your situation is simply venting to hear yourself bitch."

"Never let the hand you hold, hold you down." ~Aut

TheWife's picture

I LOVE that show. My mother and I own a wedding planning business and we deal brides like that ALL THE TIME!!!

It used to be our full time job, but now we only do it part time, only a select few weddings a year. It was tough! I do love the planning aspect of it, just not some of them women.

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Rome wasn't built in a day, and my marriage won't be either.

Cant take it anymore's picture

My children know better also, even my 6 year old. I have always told them that no matter what the gift was or even if they alreay had one (keep their mouth shut) to say thank you and never complain that they should just be happy with what they get.

ubrngoutdbitchnme's picture

I'll never forget the time we had a birthday party for SS12 when he was 10. He asked if he could open up his presents in front of his friends. We said okay. I will never forget the face he made when he opened up his gift from my SIL. She gave him a remote control firfefly. He had already had one but he broke it and wanted another. I was so mad at the fact that he had the nerve to make a face in front of her. And it wasn't just with her gift it was with others gifts also.
Oh And SS12 and I have birthdays in the same month his on the 15th mine on the 16th. I will no longer share our birthday celebrations with him. He has managed the ruin the ocassion in the past.

sm27's picture

I loved BBB's response to the Ipod situation. As soon as he makes a face in the future, take away the damn present and tell him that since he didn't want it, you'll make sure he won't have it (pretending it's for his own happiness). We'll see how many faces he makes after opening up the first damn present. They need to be taught appreciation, not expectation.

Mommyto1Stepto2's picture

My SSs are this way, and mind you we buy them nice presents. But it is never enough. For their birthdays last year I think we spent around $150-200 on them and then their mom and her boyfriend spent another $550 on each of them!! Who the hell needs $700 worth of presents for their birthdays??

And then for Christmas we spent way more than I thought we should - I thought we should spend about $200 on each of them but SS14 wanted a I-touch (he had a 8gb but wanted one with more memory) so we ended up spending about $400 on each of them and their mom probably spent $700 or more on them. WTF? DO you think we're going to be spending this on BS1? Heck no! No wonder they don't appreciate anything!!

I can't wait to see what is on their list next year!!