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One step forward, two steps backwards - Bratty sends an email

caninelover's picture

For about a year, Bratty McBratFace (SD24) has been relatively calm (still drama but mostly not affecting me) and busy with post bacc 2.0 and with Nutter GF.

SO's family has an email chain where they send updates addresses/contact information if someone moves, etc.  

Bratty has a history of sending obnoxious emails, and in 2019 kinda hijacked this email thread to send a self-righteous email to SO's whole family about pronouns, including resources for us simple minded older people to practice our gender neutral language.

So a couple of days ago, Bratty sends another email on this thread to the whole family.

Bratty started by explaining that although she originally planned to take the MCAT in May and apply to med schools this summer, she is postponing the MCAT to focus on studying for her difficult classes this semester.  (no surprise there...it would be more surprising if she actually took the MCAT LOL).  She also said she and Nutter GF like where they are living in the communal house in NorCal so plan to stay there until 'she is accepted to med school somewhere'.  This was good news to me as it keeps her far away from me, so all good.

Then Bratty goes onto say that she had news to share about her brother.  I mentioned in a prior post that SS25, Luke, recently told SO he is transitioning and wants she/her pronouns.  Now Bratty said they had Luke's permission to update the family but SO had not told anyone yet, so Bratty let that cat out of the bag.  Bratty also lectured everyone again on pronouns and asked us to refer to her 2019 email for resources to practice.

Bratty then mentions she has permission from her aunt and 3 cousins to publish their pronouns on the document with everyone's current addresses in them.  I opened the document and noticed she also published pronouns for SO, myself, and OSD Princess Leia.  SO confirmed she did not ask him (or me) for our consent first as she had said she had with her aunt and cousins.  Typical Bratty bullcrap and I made sure that SO saw this the same as I did - she asked others but not us.

Then Bratty demands that when we gather this summer for an in-person reunion that we not ask her questions about her siblings since she has limited contact with Luke and no contact with Leia.  She also demands no questions about BM Darth Vader whom she has had no contact with since 2014.  We are only allowed to ask her questions about her, Nutter, or their dog (still alive, yay!).

Of course, she just outed Luke's identity but then we aren't supposed to talk to her about Luke.  WTH.

*SIGH*.  She is just so exhausting.  I told SO I will be avoiding / grey-rocking her for the reunion after our reception (its 4 additional days after our reception in some rented air bnbs).  No response to her email so my guess is everyone's reaction is similar.  It actually did upset me and reminded me to stay disengaged with her 

Sometimes there is a glimmer of hope that she may be maturing, but then there some regression like this obnoxious and self righteous email.  SMH.

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JRI's picture

How very tiring Bratty is.  I was exhausted just halway thru her message.  Perhaps its a sign that our civilization has advanced that none of us seem shocked about her gender discussions.  Back in the day, families would have been aghast and ashamed.  Nowadays, ho hum.

caninelover's picture

Though SO's family is very non-confrontational.  They are probably eye rolling and feeling pity for Bratty (and SO)  but would never say anything about it.

caninelover's picture

I'm a narc!  I'm a narc!  I'm a narc!  

advice.only2's picture

Wow she’s got some lady balls to assign you your pronouns.  I would have responded back scathingly “How about learning and understanding consent Bratty!  The next time you assign my pronouns without asking will be the last time.  Also I really hope your brother/sister is okay with you outing them in this manner, if it were me I would personally hand you you’re a$$ for assuming you had any right to MY narrative.”  Or course I would never send this, but it would make me feel better to write it out.

caninelover's picture

That's pretty much what I typed out in the email to myself (but deleted it - I want to keep radio silence on the crazy stuff).

notarelative's picture

Bratty then mentions she has permission from her aunt and 3 cousins to publish their pronouns on the document with everyone's current addresses in them.  I opened the document and noticed she also published pronouns for SO, myself, and OSD Princess Leia

How many family members have changed their pronouns? Why "publish" the pronouns of someone who is not changing them?

I'd be tempted to tell Bratty she published the wrong pronouns for me, make some up, and send them to her --- Bratty, I now use hix and shx

caninelover's picture

Only her and Luke.  However Bratty feels it's important for everyone to state their pronouns to normalize this for people like her.

I say that is a crock and it is up to each individual to choose what to share and what to hold back.

I don't want to engage her at all, so no response from me.

MissK03's picture

Assuming most of the family in the email will be at your wedding and the reunion is 4 days after... She's talking about your wedding not the reunion. Used the reunion as a crutch. 

She will not be asked any questions... haha. Everyone should just avoid her. Then she will wonder why no one wants to talk to her about one thing... only her. 

This screams immaturity. 

caninelover's picture

So I've already told people on my side to generally avoid Bratty other than politeness.  She can hang around the few cousins she gets along with.