Our Christmas break is also the summer holidays - so they get about 7 weeks off.

me & ex with dd's - one year I have them first half of hols (including Christmas) next year he has them first half including Christmas (he lives in another state so swapping involves 2 hours driving and a plane trip LOL

OH and BM - She has them EVERY Christmas eve and Christmas day until 5pm. He has them until about 10am Boxing Day when he drops them back to her because she has usually made plans and they want to go with her....

It's really shitty their way. Because I never get to spend Xmas with MY family (who also live interstate) - OH will never take his kids away on Xmas, and if we go to my family obviously I'd do it on my year with MY dd's - and he won't leave his kids OR take them.

And no matter WHERE we go he has to drive to wherever BM is and get them, so if totally fucks up our day (sorry language!) This is a sore point for me. AND the bastard had the gall to ask me why I can't just be happy with having HIS kids here (when I was talking about how I will miss mine this year and have NO family around me) bear in mind he has told me repeatedly not to consider HIS kids MY family.... He made NO plans to see any of his family at Christmas, we can't go and see mine, and my kids are away, HE was content just to sit around the two of us until HE gets to drive and get his kids, then he would spend the evening all up their butts while expecting me to cook the usual feast..... not this little black duck!

He has now made plans for us to spend the day with his sister and her family... Still not happy but better.