Well what kind of opportunity? Like going back to school or a new job? Without knowing specifics, your husband might not be supportive if the opportunity is something that would alter your life, like moving for a new job or something. Can you be more specific?

Thats the thing, the kids aren't yours. You shouldn't be placing your life on hold at all. I do agree that I would also need to know what the opportunity is before I could give any advice.

"If I turn into another, Dig me up from under what is covering the better part of me" -Incubus

Any opportunity, you should take...sorry, but they are not your kids...if their parents didn't sacrifice and stay married for their sake, you should NOT have to put your life on hold for them either...let their parents make the sacrifices for their own children...I am sick of hearing smoms having to make sacrifices for other people's kids, while the bio parents couldn't sacrifice themselves to keep the kids from being in the middle of a divorce...geez...

Can you give us some more details? It is commendable, in my opinion to put the children's needs or your families needs above yours.....goes along with the choice you made to make them apart of your life...

Their parents are responsible for them...period.

I've been in your shoes... hell, I'm still there! There are certain things I have had to put on hold due to the amount/level of support my DH pays. However, my life goes on. I've learned that I am responsible for many things that I want and I just cannot rely on him for those things.