Possible change in the future
This is my BF’s weekend to have his daughter, anyway, he says to me this morning that she is going to spend the night at her BM because her cousins (girls) are spending the night. He goes on to say that the reason for this is the cousin’s dad is interviewing for a job in another state.
I said, “That’s nice.” He says, “I hope he gets the job.” I asked him why. He told me because it is a “PAIN”. What is? Her wanting to spend time with her cousins? He says, “Yes.” He thinks with the cousins out of the way, she will want to spend more time with him. I told him it is not unusual for a 13 year old girl to want to spend time with other girls her age, I did.
I know I am supposed to be supportive and empathetic of his feelings, but I just can’t. I can’t help but feel my BF is being selfish. All he is thinking about is how this change could affect him. Um, what about your daughter?
I’ll admit that I’m being selfish, too. Although I would never share my feelings on this subject with my BF, I would dread it if they moved away. Those girls actually save me from a lot of weekend drama.
I know this is something that is out of our control and I will have to deal with it, if and when it happens.
I am a little worried though.