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Thursday and Friday I actually got quality time w my SO so the rest of the weekend I wasn't starved for it. Saturday we slept in a little then later in the day went over to a neighbors house some friends he's had since college. They have two kids SS8 plays with. We ended up staying and having dinner. I've been pretty much just ignoring the kid completely this week not making eye contact not talking to him other than at dinner to say "can you please stop hovering over your father and I you are finished we are not." I rewarded him w some talk after a while when he stopped hovering and sat the hell down at the table like a normal person.

Anyway...so we go over and have a few drinks and dinner w this family. We all watch a movie kids on the floor. The child turns to glare and stare at me every few minutes. He did the something when they were outside playing Wth. Ugh. He doesn't speak either what do ever and then anytime his dad is out of his fight he jets over to me to interrupt and demand to know where Dad is. I told him "idk I'm not dad's keeper I'm sure you'll find him " the next few times he asked I acted like I didn't hear it bc I was in mid convo w adults.

Fast forward to today. My SO needed to get some MBA homework done and wanted to do all the grocery shopping this morning. So he takes the kid w him. I do laundry relax talk to some fily on the phone etc. they come back then he takes the kid over to the same families house for a few hours while he sits at their house and does his reading for class. I don't even care anymore. About the disappearing behaviors. AtleAst they aren't here being annoying. So I'm in mid workout when they get home and my SO wants to start making dinner. I tell him I'm busy (doing things for me that I never do) so he asks if the child will help him make dinner. Now they've had a shit ton of alone time together this weekend. So today SS8 runs to hug me (in front of his dad of course) I hug back enthusiastically bc he seems genuine. I got this one hug by me being silent and letting him be alone w his dad practically the whole weekend. That shit Int happening all the time son. So I'm sure we'll go back to evil eye once I feel like speaking and being involved in the house. He put him to bed at 8 and is STILL doing work 1 1/2 hours later. I used to get very upset. Today i don't care do much bug I'm afraid of them slipping back into their old habits by me having a bad day.