Counseling? Did it help you?
We have never done counseling; premarital or otherwise. I think we should have, DH thinks "it won't help".
We are at an impasse and have separated but making the move to divorce when you love each other is HARD to say the least. In a nutshell, we both honestly kind of suck as stepparents. Is it something that can be "fixed"? I don't know... As for our marriage, it isn't bad, though there are communication and trust (regarding the kids) issues. I think for sure, those things can be fixed.
But, has anyone successfully navigated back to a working marriage after being on the brink of divorce?
Our issues stem from our kids (no shared kids between us) who are 13, 13, 14, 15.
I really think that 75% of the problem is general teenage stuff. NONE of the kids are "bad kids". None of the kids are having trouble at school. None of the kids have ever done anything crazy like drugs, drinking, sex. None of the kids would dare disrespect either of us in terms of things like swearing or hitting or anything. Yet we just cannot get on the same parenting page. Nothing as extreme as one permissive parent and one strict parent; just DIFFERENT parenting styles -- which obviously occurs with most couples -- I just think it's easier to navigate when it's your own (shared) children or perhaps if they were really little.
I really think we should STOP trying to parent each other's kids and work on being married to each other and supporting each other's parenting, without feeling like we need to be "A PARENT" to the other persons' kids.
I'm rambling sorry.
So back to my original question...has anyone saved their marriage after having issues between the step-relationships?