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Yes, I *KNOW* it makes me "mean stepmama" but...

Bio-Step-Mom's picture

I am secretly glad that skids aren't coming this summer.

DH will go and visit them and we will pick them up on the way to go to his family reunion but they aren't spending the entire summer here.

I like them. They aren't bad kids. But the disruption is so great that it is SO stressful every summer. It starts out fine but soon all hell breaks loose.

SS13 and BD16 do not get along.
SD13 and BS14 do not get along.
SD13 and BD16 do not get along.

SD13 and BS14 are manipulative little jerks sometimes and cause all kinds of hell.

DH is pretty bad about being guilted by SD13 and lets her get away with murder. Soon enough the other 3 kids are avoided interacting with her. DH then gets pissed at the other kids. I then get pissed at DH for not seeing what is happening.

This is the cycle every.single.time. and sad as it may be to admit it, I am glad I get this summer "off".

AHhhhhhhh.

Rant/vent over.

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Anon2009's picture

I guess it depends on what exactly they do. Lots of siblings/step siblings fight, especially if they're close in age. Add to that the fact that they're all teens. It doesn't matter if they only see your kids during the summer. They see them for the whole summer.

Bio-Step-Mom's picture

My bios are 14 and 16. They are super close and RARELY fight with each other. Reminds me of me and my brother who is 2 1/2 years older than me. We never fought.

It's not a specific thing that any of them do (okay, save for the manipulating)...it's the tension that all 6 of us are under for those 2 months.

Bio-Step-Mom's picture

Oh gosh, there are no physical altercations...but DH and I do work full time. So save for my kids going to their various summer activities or hanging with friends; they spend a lot of time together at home.

So then you're trying to mediate over the phone. You don't have all the info. Plus you're at WORK! LOL.