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My mind is sooo overtaken with my hatred towards his kids that we don't have sex much anymore.

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Submitted by baseballgirly on Fri, 09/07/2012 - 7:01pm

Call it what you want it... I hate his kids... makes me feel less love for SO... less love makes me crave less sex.... less sex makes him mad.

I wonder if it's fair that I bring it all back to him and his kids?? I dislike them intensely. I find them disgusting and gross. Thinking of them coming or even being in my house makes me feel gross. He wonders why I don't want sex as much anymore... Ugh... because all I can think about is your gross ass fat lazy kids!!!

He digs his own grave if he so much as mentions one of their names when he thinks he's about to get lucky!! Just like that the fire can be put out.

I am mad that they unknowingly have sooo much control over so many aspects of my life!!

I want a second bathroom in our house but I refuse to put out the money for a bathroom that they will use!! Seems petty...but that's where I'm finally at!! I dispise them and want nothing to do with them and want them to have nothing to do with anything of mine.

If I move, I'd technically not be breaking up with SO... he could follow if he wanted and so help me I'd NEVER see his kids again!! (I'd make sure to move far enough). And if he doesn't follow... no heartbreak here!! I've loved him less and less the longer this all goes on.

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Submitted by Frustr8d1 on Fri, 09/07/2012 - 7:17pm

You're not being petty--It really puts a HUGE wedge between you when the skids are in the mix. It's not so much who the skids are, but WHAT they symbolize and represent. They are constant reminders of some other previous (and SICK, in most cases) relationship.

I feel ya!

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Submitted by 3familiesIn1 on Fri, 09/07/2012 - 7:29pm

I have major issues with SS7. He is a splitting image of BM. DH even questions his paternity. Anywho... I noticed in this last year he has some resemblence to DH afterall and that similarity has been difficult for me now when I see it in DH.

I wondered if seeing too much of SS7 in DH (or the other way around) is going to cause me issues in time.

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Submitted by bi on Fri, 09/07/2012 - 9:30pm

i feel the same way about sd20 and always have. it's not about bm, or anything else. it's 100% HER. i don't like anything about her. if we were the same age, we would not be friends. i hate her voice, her face, her laugh, her long bony nasty toes, her big nose, her selfishness, her conceit, her constant victim status, everything. the list goes on and on...

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Submitted by MarriedaBalless... on Fri, 09/07/2012 - 11:17pm

I laughed when I read your post. I can totally relate. I haven't had sex with my DH in 2 months.

I caught him staring at my boobs tonight at dinner. Haa haa. Too bad! He isn't getting any this weekend either.

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Submitted by autopilot on Sat, 09/08/2012 - 1:45am

I may catch grief over this post...but, here goes anyway.

You aren't married to this man so what keeps you in it this relationship? You do. There are no bonds here except for the fact that you apparently share a home together. So, if you don't like the way things have turned out, nothing is stopping you from leaving except you.

Why keep yourself in a relationship that makes you miserable when you can so easily walk away? You aren't married and have no obligation to stay in an uncommitted relationship. If you were married to this man, the situation would be SO very different because of legal as well as commitment issues.

You've defined what you don't like (men with children). So, get out of this relationship and find a type of man who can make you happy because the man you are now with never will (according to your own postings and bio). If you truly want to find happiness and contentment, quit beating yourself up over what makes you so unhappy and commit to make a change in your situation.

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Submitted by MarriedaBalless... on Sat, 09/08/2012 - 1:51am

Oh, I didn't realize she wasn't married.

God, in that case she should run.

It only get worse when the boys are teens Baseballgrl. It goes to levels you haven't even imagined.

If I were you I'd cut your loses and find a man with no children. I think harboring hatred can cause real illnesses. I speak from experience.

Good luck to you my dear. I read your blogs and you sound a lot like me.

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Submitted by SanAntonioSoccerMom on Sat, 09/08/2012 - 5:03pm

1. There once was a time when parents had lots of kids. Now kids have lots of parents.

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Touche.