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Submitted by AtoZMom on Tue, 06/23/2015 - 6:58am

So most of my family are starting to accept my SD5 as me and DH are actually engaged, and have a BD1. They all seem to have the mindset that no matter what happens BM1 &SD5 will always be sisters. My mom has even said if anything were to happen to me and DH she would invite SD5 over to visit and spend time with BD1! Most of my family have Skids and such, so most understand that situation.
My Nan on the other hand doesn't like change. She didn't call my cousin (my aunts son from a previous relationship) her grandson until he graduated high school and my aunt and uncle have been married since he was 5 and my uncle legally adopted him not long after they married (what ever the amount of time you need to wait). I don't even know how she feels about me SD5, she always has little things for me to bring home for her but she won't call her by name, she uses cute little names (which is fine but SD5 has a name). My mom says she does like her, she wouldn't have things for her if she didn't.

My nan is stuck in her ways and isn't gonna change, she's not a fan of DH as he not only has tattoos & piercings but is also a Tattoo artist and a body piercer! I realize its not for everyone but she believes that if you were meant to have it you would have been born with it! (she doesn't even like ear piercings lol)

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Submitted by furkidsforme on Tue, 06/23/2015 - 9:06am

Your Nan is not obligated to show her love and affection the same exact way you would. Nor is she obligated to have the same standards of appearance. We don't all have to be alike.

It seems to me like your Nan is perfectly polite and accepting of your SD and your DH. Quit trying so hard to ruin it by putting unnecessary and arbitrary standards on her behavior.

So what if she calls your SD pet names? You can want her to call her by her given name, or you can think it's cute because it is common for adults of her generation to give pet names. (I grew up with the pet name Peanut, and loved it. Anyone can know your real name, only family know your pet name)

So what if she doesn't like tattoos? Many people don't. But she is polite and accepting of your Dh regardless. That says to me that SHE is more accepting of him than your or he is of HER. You can respect her right to not like them.

It just seems like you are stretching to see problems where none exist.