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stepkid venting sites/issues

Anon2009's picture

Does anyone know of some skid venting sites that are like this?

I know a lot of people here have been badmouthed on Facebook by their skids. I know that there are several pages on FB relating to stepkids hating their stepparents. I think that kids need somewhere to vent too.

What do you think about skids venting about us? Where do you think it is appropriate for them to vent, and why? Where do you think it's not appropriate for them to vent, and why?

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stormabruin's picture

You don't have to use your real name on Facebook. You just have to list a first name & a last name. If you want people to be able to search for you, you'd have to use your real name, but just to be on there and search for others, you can make one up.

I agree that they do need a place to vent as well. My concern would be that they wouldn't receive the helpful suggestions we search for on this site. I imagine it would just be a place where all the kids team up & stepparent-bash. Of course, I guess there are days here where stepparents team up & bash stepkids too. I just worry that kids wouldn't have the maturity to be productive about it.

stormabruin's picture

My concern would be that as adults, we (most of us) are mature enough to understand that it is important to either resolve issues or accept them and move forward. I think many children are angry with their situations and with a site that is loaded with other angry children, I think that many of them would have a tendency to kind of get stuck in that mode & just feed off of others angry feelings.

Example: DH's ex is a selfish lying bitter bitch. So is DH's best friends ex. I have noticed that when they get together, they sit & talk (almost competing) about who has the worst ex. DH says something like, "Well my ex did ..." & his buddy comes back with , "Man, that sucks, but at least she didn't ... like my ex did". They go back & forth for hours. It doesn't resolve anything. It just makes those ugly memories fester & they feed off of each other as they go back and forth. It's just a man-bitch fest.

If the option is there, I think that counseling would be the best bet.

starfish's picture

Crayon ~~ i'm about as fond of my skids as you are yours.... maybe it's the situation or skids we've been dealt, b/c i dated a guy who had 2 small kids for 3 yrs and i loved them ~~ in fact, missing the oldest one was the worst part of the break up. but dh skids ~~ :sick: , totally different, for many of the reasons you listed above!

midwestmama's picture

Do kids really give a rats ass about venting anonymously?? Seems to me that ANY venue is game for them to spew any idea that pops into their heads?? I'd say that they could do it just about anywhere they want and it's considered acceptable. Poor poor innocent little darlings who didnt ask for this...unlike us evil SM's who did?!?!?