Noooo

Why did you smash my hopes?

Yeah, I figured gritting my teeth through the graduations is a must. I can hang out at the bar at her wedding and avoid Dr Evil's family. But college? grandchildren? That brings up more crap too?

Will hex's ever truly go away?

I know! I've wandered on to the adult step forum before only to be disappointed in the same way!

But... there are far fewer posts. So maybe it's still an issue, just not an everyday, in your face type issue.

That's the reality, and it's better to know it than to be surprised by it.

I have two adult skids. Both had "issues" as kids, and they both still struggle as adults. In fact, despite hating each other for years, they now live together & the tie that binds them is hating DH & me. They've gotten older, but never changed. Sure, they've pretended to make nice, but things always revert to status quo. BM hasn't changed. DH has a bit, as I stepped out & forced him to deal with the ugly people their children grew up to be. Broken members of a broken family, even after all these years.

Of course life goes on with the Skids when they turn 18. There is no reason for them not to be in your life. They will always be DH children, and he will always want to be in their lives.

My only hope is that it is easier to deal with their crap when DH is no longer shelling out piles of cash for CS.

We have had no contact with BM for 5 years, since SD was 18. She did call DH once but he refused to talk to her, except to say that he had nothing to say to her.

DH does not fall for ANY of SD's antics and never has, so no real problems there, either.

I guess it just depends on what they have learned that they can get away with.