BioHo already making waves with future DIL
Looks like BioHo is already trying to establish herself as the alpha in SS21's marriage.
SS21 called DH yesterday to wish him a Happy Father's Day and they talked for about an hour. DH puts all calls on speaker phone - nothing to hide - which can be quite entertaining at times.
Anyhoo, 'Ho called to ask the future Mrs SS21 a few things about the upcoming wedding events. Then things went downhill. Seems that 'Ho expects Mrs SS21 to call 'Ho "mom". Mrs SS21 is not comfortable with that and politely stated as such. BioHo persisted and Mrs SS21 told 'Ho, "But you are not my mother. I would really like for us to be friends and maybe some day I will be comfortable calling you 'mom'. Until then, I prefer to keep calling you BioHo."
Now *I* didn't see anything wrong with that and thought it was a diplomatic approach. Why on earth should someone who barely knows you start calling you "mom" just because you marry her son?
Not when it's BioHo. 'Ho told Mrs SS21 that she preferred to be called "mom" or "mama BioHo". Mrs SS21 (bless her stubborn little heart) repeated the "maybe some day" and "keep calling you BioHo" bits.
'Ho persisted. Mrs SS21 will be SS21's wife and 'Ho is his mother so she wants to be called "mom". And the gently stubborn Mrs SS21 repeated.
'Ho got p!ssy. "Well I'm not comfortable with you calling me BioHo! I'm SS21's mother. His MOTHER!! And you need to call me mom!"
At which point, Mrs SS21 handed the phone to SS21 and said, "I can't deal with that." And SS21 said, "Mom, we have to go. Love you. Bye."
Soooooo SS21 is asking DH what DH thinks he should do. DH said, "Oops, hang on, son. Work call coming in. Let me put you on hold." Puts him on hold, turns to me, and says, "Baby, got any suggestions?"
Evil Aniki took over and said, "I guess dropping dead is out of the question..." ~DH guffawed~ "DH, I can't think of anything. 'Ho will be a pita until Mrs SS21 does what she wants. So she can give in, or stand her ground and prepare for war."
"Son? It's your mother. She's not gonna change." "You're right, Dad. Guess we'll keep avoiding her."
And that, ladies and gents, is yet another lesson on how to alienate your kids, courtesy of BioHo.