BioHo wants our address
Blog Hog today.
Unfreakinbelievable. We've had this house for 5+ years. 'Ho has dropped the skids off countless times. DH has sent her checks. Yet 'Ho called him last night asking for our address.
Why? Because SD25's bridal shower is coming up and 'Ho needs it for my invitation. *shok*
Ugh. I bloody well loathe bridal showers. The last one I attended was my b!tchster-in-law's 30 years ago. Not a fan of baby showers either. The stupid games: tootsie rolls and mustard in a diaper, Purse Raid... I literally cringed just now, thinking of them. Gaaaaaaaaaahhhh. *dash1*
But THE top reason I do not want to break my 30-year No Go record is simple: BioHo. Well, duh. Of course the Monster of the Bride will be in attendance. (Who thinks she'll be drinking?) I plan to respond with "I'll be out of town" or "I have to work". It would not surprise me at all if 'Ho did a drive-by to see if my car is gone, so the latter excuse would likely be best. *crazy*
Which leaves me with one dilemna: Do you send gifts to a shower you are not attending??? Help! *bomb*
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Ho no!! I have sent gifts
Ho no!! I have sent gifts for showers I have not attended and it works out well because they get a gift and I don't have to pretend to enjoy being there.
YES!
Agreed and I have done that as well. You will feel no guilt if you sent a gift. Your skids will also totally understand why you didnt go. SD knows you support her, she also knows how cray cray HO can be. Not to stress Aniki.
Showers have never been my thing. Even worse if it has to be with the HO.
I don't even know if SD is
I don't even know if SD is aware of the shower or if it's a surprise. Regardless, the idea of one is repelling. I've never been into the girly-girl stuff. *unknw*
Advice, I don't think I have
Advice, I don't think I have it in me to pretend to enjoy being there. *dash1*
I have NO idea what to send. Obviously, the wedding registry is of no help as it should be something personal for SD. Ugh.
I also strongly dislike baby
I also strongly dislike baby showers ! When I was pregnant with my first I made very clear to everyone I did not want to have a baby shower, yet many friends pressured me to have one, with one friend in particular 'offering' (pushing) to organise it, provide the venue, etc. I ended up having one !!! It was AWKWARD, don't like being the center of attention, don't understand why other people would want to sit around all day just celebrating the fact I'm pregnant lol, playing games such as measuring my belly...dear... ny second baby is a lockdown baby so no baby shower due to Covid ! Yupi (one good thing about the freaking pandemic)
and those silly games of having to call to "ask" for your address when she knows perfectly well the address, deaary me
I feel your pain
send a lovely gift and a lovely card and done '!
Esperanza, it IS a game,
Esperanza, it IS a game, calling to ask for the address. It is an excuse to contact and try to stay relevant. Ick.
Dear god
Do not go. Make up anything to avoid that car crash event. Even without the presence of 'Ho, I'd try to skip it. I have always loathed bridal shower/hen-dos. When it came time for mine, I insisted that 4 of us go out for a nice dinner. No tiaras. no sashes, no game, no nothing!
Send a super nice gift. But something 'Ho can't steal or destroy.
Ha! a car crash seems like a
Ha! a car crash seems like a preferable option to me!
Woman, there is nothing that
Woman, there is nothing that would make me go. Nothing DH could say that will change my mind. Even if 'Ho was NOT going, I would not attend. Blech!
Something 'Ho can't steal or destroy... Like a tank? *dirol*
Send a gift and offer up to
Send a gift and offer up to SD that you and DH will take her and FH out to dinner one night to "make up for it".
Not gonna lie, I like the purse scavenger hunt game. I'll even pre-prep a bag for it. But I like to spice things up: add a lacy red thong, pocket rocket, roll of condoms, bottle of lube - you name it, add it to the bag. They'll never call those in a scavenger hunt, but it makes party games MUCH more interesting when a pair of nipple clamps just haphazardly fall onto the floor and someone's toddler says "Mommy, what's this?"
I embrace my crude and vile side.
Sweetie, what makes you think
Sweetie, what makes you think I do NOT have a pair of nipple clamps in my purse? *dirol*
Naughty Aniki confession: in the old days, my purse was a veritable "fun bag", complete with a teddy or tap pants and a vibe. *diablo*
I, too, embrace my crude and vile side!
I'd tell the bride to be that
I'd tell the bride to be that I won't be able to come to the shower but I'd love to have a nice lunch just the two of us instead and then give her a small gift then.
Fairly certain the shower is
Fairly certain the shower is a surprise, so I don't want to ruin that. Maybe I could text SD later that day or the next...
Yes to the gift
Skip the shower. I'm with you, I detest them, BioHo or not.
I'd rather have a root canal!
I'd rather have a root canal!
I hate showers too I didn't
I hate showers too I didn't even really want to have one myself when I was pregnant, and I got out of having one when I got married.
Send your regrets but don't send a gift. One gift for the wedding is plenty.
DH is okay with me fibbing
DH is okay with me fibbing about why I cannot attend, but would like for me to send a gift. Maybe some bath bombs?
I usually advise going....
I would normally advise stepmoms going to showers for the sake of diplomacy. But in this case, no. She is just way too unstable for you to be around. Id send a nice gift and your regrets. I'm sure your SD will understand.
JRI, BioHo is too unstable to
JRI, BioHo is too unstable to walk freely amongst the (semi-) normal folks without a 42 XXXXX Longsleeved jacket and a Hannibal mask...
Do you know her size?
Do you know her size? Otherwise guess and send a nice nightgown type thing? I wouldn't attend but I would send the gift since you guys are kind of in good standing. I loathe showers too.....all of that nonsense.
I do not, bananaseedo. She's
I do not, bananaseedo. She's a plus size gal and I'd hate to buy something too big/small (the clothing industry is terribly irregular). I would have to buy from Walmart or put in a few hours of travel to see things firsthand. I was thinking maybe some bathbombs?? Ugh.
Bath bombs of bubble bath
Bath bombs of bubble bath stuff sounds nice.
I can remember how much I hated all the showers/planning and crap I did for my SIL- I was the maid of honor- effing hell I would never do that again, hated it all. So much stress, so much expense! I was a single mom not making much and with two young babies-I wish she would have chosen someone else.
I still shudder at the though of all those showers- preps-then came baby shower/baby sprinkle/gender reveals- URHHHH
Hence why I'm dreading the next couple of years with SD- All the forced interactions with BM. Gender reveal passed-now the baby shower in Oct-then I'm sure a wedding will follow with wedding gift/bridal shower, etc....eff all that noise.
She likes bath bombs and
She likes bath bombs and soaps and lotions. I've given them to her before for Christmas and they were always well received. Think I'll look for a set...
DH and I went to a gender reveal pre-C and it was a hoot. The couple placed a tannenite reveal on the other side of the lake and the dad-to-be shot it (avid hunter). There were baby cupcakes and the future parents/grandparents wore sweatshirts and the guests were asked to wear a blue or pink shirt (your guess), but that was the only baby-related activity.
After BioHo's BS at SS21's wedding, I'm dreading the next 5 months!
I found that giving a gift
I found that giving a gift card to a massage place, or somewhere that does facials is a huge hit.
Of course, COVID now...
If SO and I get married not a
If SO and I get married not a chance in hell I would have shower. NO WAY. Can't stand them. Gift opening.. ugh. 5 minutes in tables are all having their own side convos! Haha. Everyone seems to dislike them but, everyone still has them. Another weird society rule.
Send a nice gift and after the shower date do lunch. Sounds like a much better idea. And no HO to ruin it!
I hear you, MissK03. DH and I
I hear you, MissK03. DH and I didn't announce to anyone that we were getting married OR when we did. He simply started referring to me as "my wife". DH is notoriously bad with dates and I am his calendar. When asked when we married, he said, "Baby, what day did we get married?" My answer? "Tuesday." *diablo*
I need the next 5 months to gear up for being in the same buidling as 'Ho!
Get a picnic basket and fill
Get a picnic basket and fill it up with paper supplies in all those God awful colors she chose for pictures. Also include a picture frame. Empty. LOL. Of course if you never return her call the invitation might not come. chance you'll have to take. Bummer. LOL
Why would I give that to SD??
Why would I give that to SD?? 'Ho is the one who chose the colors for pics. *scratch_one-s_head*
I don't really like showers either
but I'll be going to one soon since Ss is getting married at the end of the year.
I haven't seen Bm for years so I just can't wait........NOT!!!!
Ugh, wishing you an
Ugh, wishing you an uneventful encounter, Dawn!
I am so hoping that, as of 2022, I won't have to see BioHo ever again. Is that too much to hope for? Probably...
I hate hate them too. I only
I hate hate them too. I only attended my sisters (also under duress - long story) and a couple very good friends.
All others I politely decline and send a nice gift.
I also hate bridal showers, esp. weekend long ones.
I'm drafting my Thanks, But I
I'm drafting my Thanks, But I Cannot...
Weekend long ones?! Ermagawd!!! *shok*
OMG I loath them as well.
OMG I loath them as well.
I would send a gift.
I would hid my car in the garage AND hid myself in the house all day. Can you imagine if you were out and about and someone saw you. ????? HEHEHEEHE
Jesus, Mary and Joseph, The stuff we have to do sometimes. LOL
I would hide my car in the
I would hide my car in the garage if we had one! As long as my car is parked at home, I think I'm good.
Hey, I have fond memories of sneaking out the back door and through the neighbor's yard to get in my sister's car when SD25 was pounding on the front. *diablo*
I wouldn't go...but I would
I wouldn't go...but I would send a gift...something wonderfully thoughtful to help sd with the PTSD she is likely going to experience in agreeing to her allow her mother to hijack her wedding... like a taser with a large recent picture from the beach debacle of the bride of chucky's (AKA BIO HO) face attached to a target or a bottle of BM's favourite tipple laced with valium in readiness for the wedding morning*diablo*
Chucky's mother!
Chucky's mother!
I bought a lovely bath set for SD: soap, bath bomb, lotion, lip balm, and sugar scrub. I'll mail it.