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anbacc's picture

So Im about sick of my SD11's lying and then she gets away with it. It's like im the only one who see's what she does. My DH is a back seat parent when it comes to SD. He never notices when SD is being rude or when she lies, but is real quick to punish my children. It causes a lot of fighting between us because eventually I get fed up and say something.

Last night was a turn in the right direction... During this long weekend I informed DH that SD had a lot of homework to get done and should start it on Sunday so she wouldn't be overwhelmed on Monday. DH tells me that she will get it all done on Monday and he would make sure of it. (SD hasn't been turning her work in on time). We get home from the beach around 6:30 and I get my kids started on their homework and DH does the same with SD. SD claims she doesn't have much homework and DH says she better get it ALL done. When she finishes DH ask her one more time if it is all done and she swears it is. So I pipe up and say what about your corrections. SD proceeds to tell us she has none. So I give DH the eyes to let him know she isn't being truthful. He ask to look in her binder and SD freaks out. "Why do you do that to me, you never believe me, Im not a lier!" I knew she was lying and thought DH would know too after hearing that reaction. ( I tried the same guilt card as a kids too) Instead DH tells her he will take her word for it but she better not be lying to him. As soon as she went up stairs I pulled out her binder and handed DH 4 papers that needed correction and said "Do you want to try and ask her again?"

DH was furious, I was so proud of him. He grounded her and made her finish her work. When she tried to act like she didn't know it was in there, he told her he didn't believe her and that she knew she was lying. Finally, maybe now he will be more aware of her problems.

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reeny511's picture

why is it that men never see what's right in their face! I cant tell you how many times SD10 has lied to DH about the silliest mundane things and I'm the one that has to point it out to him. I always feel like the bad guy because if it wasn't for me, she would get away with it!