SD15 wants to dye her hair. She's got light brown super-wavy thick hair and fair skin that tans easily.

What color, you ask? Not pink, not blue, not black, not bleached blonde... she wants a deep brunette.

BM will allow her to dye her hair, but only red. (BM is a redhead) Who does that? I see it this way: a) no dye. Period. b) Natural colors only, that are complimentary to your skin tone. c) Do what you want, it's only hair. But to say, "Yes, you can dye it, but only the color *I* want." That's just bizzare to me.

Went there - failed ..

On Saturday, DH, BD5, BS2 and myself all went on a beautiful train ride through the mountains without SD. SD will be coming over tonight and I know DD5 will not be able to help herself; She's going to tell all about it.

How do you live contently when your step-daughters bm just up and left with no word for 4 years. I am tired of being "ok" with it. i am tired of cleaning up the mess and dealing with thhe crap. Why does the husband expect me to just deal with it? be the grown up. We have one child together and another on the way and he expects me to love his child the way I love my Biochildren. Ridiculous.

Does anyone every feel like there step child is more important then themsleves. Children are important and there step parents should feel equally loved and as important. How do any one feel about that. I always felt like my step comes first even before the daughter I share with my husband.

A few weeks ago I posted how I told dh that all I wanted for my bday was to take our bios an visit ny parents. The problem was that it was going to be an ss weekend so I gently tried to tell him this weekend was for the kids and I alone. Dh got his feelings hurt thinking I didn't want him (dh) around. I finally told him (with advice from someone here) that since it was an ss weekend I figured dh might want to spend the weekend with ss instead while we do our own thing. I told dh it would give ss time away from our kids which ss would enjoy. At first dh was angry and defensive.

Well low and behold,

Yesterday I picked up the kids from daycare. She told me SS3 had had 2 time outs that afternoon, the most he's had in awhile. Didn't surprise me because we suspected the skids had been at BM's mom's house all weekend, and every time they spend time with her they have the BIGGEST attitude problems.

A chronicle of what has changed since I found Step Talk…this turned out really long, but I needed to get it out of my system. Maybe someone will read the whole thing, maybe not; either way it organized my thoughts and feelings and has sort of caught me up to date with my process of coming to terms with (or not) with skids.

Now a days children seem to take the qualities good an bad from their influences ie parents... It amazes me that a persons child can get away with threatening to hurt my children, and then tripping my child on purpose making her fall into a mud puddle and leaving her with my oldest to clean her up, real responsible,
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