I have been married for only a year but dated my husband for 3 years before the big day. He has two children currently ss7 and sd9. Together we have a 3 year old son. The children's mother is EXTREMELY difficult to deal with and believes yelling resolves everything. To top it off, my stepson was diagnosed with a mild form of autism/Aspberger's this last year w/ ADHD. He seems to be the opposite of what most autistic children are. He's overly touchy, kisses EVERYONE, is very loud and embarrassing (as bad as this sounds).

I am new here and I already love this place. I have always felt alone when it came to venting about my stepchild. My husband got her mother pregnant while on a drunken escapade in the military and now we, meaning I, have to deal with it... I mean her. I have know my stepdaughter since she was 2 and I am the only stepmother she has ever know, I have had friends whose kids have met every fling bio dad brings home. My husband, for a VERY long time, did not want anything to do with his daughter. Her stepdad and his family accepted her as a one of their own from the very beginning.

You know what is funny? I sometimes forget that my husband is a sp too...I have bd16 and bd15 and they give him a really hard time. I really try to keep on them and tell then that he will treat him with respect but sometimes he makes it hard too...He makes all of the kids do way to many chores... except of course the baby who is my sd9... she is just a baby and she is to young... But when I married him my youngest was 9 and he thought she sould be in there doing chores... It is just hard blending families.

Hi everyone! WOW..I have been reading your post for a few hours(yes, hours) and I am soooo happy I am not alone. I thought I was the only one who felt this way, and I thought I was a horrible person for feeling it too. I have been married to my DH for 9 years, and raising his son(now 13) since he was 4. We have a son together(8 now). And the BM is not in the picture, she hasn't been in it since SS was 5. I have been raising him, and it's been an uphill climb out of hell..and I don't think I am getting near the top. I hate to say it, but really don't like him.

I would like to think of myself as a nice person who cares about others, which is why I felt it was important to talk to the older skid about college. No one else is... I had her take an aptitude test to figure out what she might want to do with her life and she scored horribly on everthing! How do you get a zero on everything?? Is that even possible to have no interests or personality traits. It kinda scares me... Weird.

I am new here and relatively new to being an SM... I hate it!!! It makes me think twice about having my own children. From what I understand from friends, when they are yours you can deal with a lot of actions that from a skid will make you insane! All of your postings have made me feel a sense of normalcy that I lost. I honestly thought it was my fault that I just don’t like these little brats (the other b-word is more appropriate). I have two of them; sd12 & sd15.

SS15 spent 6 days, not 5 with my parents. they said he was great. He worked his butt off, they say. Yay!! I was praying that he would be good and that he would be respectful and that they would love to have him. It seems, all of those things happened. Thank God for answers to prayer. Plus, I've been praying for my relationship with him and his gf... both got better today because I thought up bringing her with to surprise him when I went to pick him up. She and I got to talk for like 2 hours on the way there. And he was happy that I thought of bringing her.

The last few months have been the hardest of the 2+ years I've been with SO. I try to hold on to my faith and church, and with this being my possibly second marriage, I'm holding on more just because it's what my faith says to do. Yes, we aren't married yet, and there's a reason I'm not ready to marry him...so yes I do have an "out."

:(My partner's mother's 60th birthday party today and I've detached and I'm home alone.

.. to have BM blocked from calling our (namely DH's) cell phones?