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These were the options DH was given by BM#2 about when he could get SS8 next Friday. To give some background, DH has been getting EOW visitation with SS since he was 2. It's always been every other Friday to Sunday, usually dropping off/picking up around 5PM. More background is that DH and I work 2 1/2 hours away from home. Occasionally we are permitted to work from home, and that has worked out the last couple times we had visitation, but next week is not looking to work out that way.
Hello,I have two amazing boys a five year old and a one year old. The five year old is my step son. I have been with his dad for 3 years. when we first got together he had my ss full time. Now we have him every other week. When we first got together he would try to call me mom but i would tell him my name. I did not feel like that was okay at the time. His mom was off partying we would go months with out seeing her. she became prego with her 3rd kid at age 23 at that time she could no longer party and became a mom to her other kids. She also has a 8 year old.
Tomorrow is supposed to be our first night without the kids since they got here a month ago.
Not feeling optimistic after today. Someone is gonna screw it up. Most likely Sybil, but other candidates include either skids at home, or SD23 who is supposed to babysit, as well as DH. He's been sick for 2 weeks off and on. Won't see a Dr. Not sleeping well which throws him off for days to follow. GROUCHY AS HELL. Smoking too much too, both of which pisses me off.
When I read other posts, I see several people mention disengaging.
I think that may help me right now...I am so hurt in my marriage.
SD13 and SD16 used to live with their mother and visited us every other weekend. I didn't much mind them then. In fact, I had a pretty good relationship with them then. But they moved in with us 2 1/2 years ago and it has been pure hell. They lie and are two-faced. I can not stand having them here 24/7. I can't stand to look at them and I can't stand to talk to them. I have been disengaged for about a year now, but I still can't stand them being here. I only have two years to go and the oldest will be gone, but I still have almost 5 years before the other one is gone. :sick: UGH!!!
So, things have been going pretty terrific with me. FDH is getting on track with things all on his own. We are thriving and it's such an awesome feeling to have the stars and moon aligned once again (hopefully I just didn't jinks myself).
So the lastest is that we got SmartLimits and blocked the narcissist x see you next tuesday from FH phone!!! No more texts, no more voice messages, no more calls harrassing him, insulting me at 6:30am until 11pm++.
So excited. Life is good. Off to drink vino!!
You’re the creator of your own misery. The sympathy you crave shows how pathetic you are. You in your mind you honestly believe that you have done no damage, you need to look again. Look at your past and look what happened to you, remember how you felt when your mom left. You have never been able to take care of yourself you have always relied on a man and picked every penny out of both of your ex’s pockets.
So its been maybe a month since SS pissed me off to the point that i decided i was no longer doing nice things for him, especially since DH and BM don't do anything to correct his behavior. well, DH tells me that he just had a talk with BM and she told him that she is sick of SS and does not want to be around him or spend time with him, take him out because he embarrases her with his disrespectfulness,etc. etc.... which is exactly the way i feel.
I have a question, How do you ladies and gents do when your skids are sick? What I mean is that if it is your time or your dh's time with the kids and they are sick, do you or your dh's let the bm take care if them or do you or your dh's get them and take care of them yourselves? I ask b/c dh lets bm take care of the boys when they are sick his logic is that we don;t need to get sick and if they aren't here then it can;t be spread. I understand where he is coming from so I let him do what he wants. however there is a part of me that thinks he should have to take care of them too.
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