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So, BM makes agreements in mediation two weeks ago. Agrees to let teens see father three times per week and encourage them to go. Agrees to let 4 year old be with father.
In true fashion she does none of those things. Fails to show at mediation yesterday.
Me, evil SO goes to mediation to clear up lies (bring documents to prove) and talk about what is best residential custody arrangement for HER children.
Mediator feels children are more bonded with mother. I query, a HEALTHY bond, or emotional hostages?
The last few weeks with my SS 9 has been hell. He's been lying, stealing food (we've now locked the pantry and the fridge), peeing his pants all the time, non-empathetic about everything, etc etc.. what else is new... now however his parents have decided that because he does so many 'bad' things all the time, they are going to praise him for the good things. Sounds reasonable.. however they are over praising everything... "Thank you for saying please", "Thank you for wiping you bum", "Thank you for not stealing food", "Thank you for doing your homework", etc etc etc.
Currently, BM is not allowed to see her kids via BF. She had lost custodianship almost 2 years ago due to drug use. So we have SKids 24/7. She was on a court program and was up to 3 unsupervised over nights a week when she decided to quit. She spent 5 days in jail. She then thought that she would just keep seeing the kids. Well, that is NOT how it went.
ok... yall wanted updates! Heres a good one for ya!
Disadvantage of living in a small town all your life: you know everyone and see everyone everywhere you go!
Advantage of living in a small town all you life: your parents went to school with the local police and you went to school with the local police's kids! so you have that connection (esp the officers who have girls, bc we all used to have sleepovers all the time!)
My exH has not seen or had any contact with our kids since they were very little in short is has been 15 years! anyway out of the blue he starts to write the kids b/c he is in prison and is bored. Dd will have NOTHING to do with him, ds started to write him till he got bored. Now his ex wife contacted me on face book, not sure if she wants a bashing fest about him or what? :? I am not going to do it though, I'll talk to her about her kids (my kids half brother and sisters) um really how should I take this? I don;t know what to think? :? :? :? :?
I knew she was doing this, but it just came out finally. SS14 just told us that BM told him that she can't pay him his allowance that she had set up w/him due to child support. Keep in mind BM a/k/a "Mange" constantly goes on vacations, (5 this year already), to go boink whatever boytoy she has going on at the time. THANK GOD this was an earlier post/discussion on STalk and found out that it was perfectly acceptable to set out the "facts" being that BM receives 25% of DH's retirement on top of her getting her full retirement, the house and all furnishings, etc.
Someone should have warned me about SS ( AGE 11) who was sent to us out of the blue by BM because she wanted to attend school ( boy was that a bunch of bs- she couldn't handle him) SS had not seen his BF (my husband)in 5 years much less ever come for a visit so we had some sort of clue what we were getting into. SS is a manupilative lying piece of work who thinks he is the man of the house.
Tonight was the last straw, he comes home from school has a decent day, we do homework, he eats dinner and goes outside for a bit.
so we live abiut 5 minutes away from my mother and law and she doesnt work my father and law works nights so my father and law calls my dear husband telling him that he has to work nights and my brother and law who is 23 went on vacation so she is home alone and scared so my DH tells me "my mom is scared do you mind going over cleaning the dishes and bathrooms and mabey spending the night" i said no and he got pissed telling me well at least my ex cleaned for my mom and i stat crying and he is like dont look at me im like "HELLO i am 6 months pregnant with your twins" i can barely bend over
new update - while DH and I were at dinner, SS and girlfriend had big fight at our house - yelling and breaking things. SS broke her computer so she called the police, SS left because police were coming and called dh on his cell so that we could enjoy all the fun. By the time we got home - everyone was out of our house and police were in the driveway for us to deal with. We got to entertain them while they tried to contact victim (GF). DH got her on the phone and got her to not press charges against SS.
ONE thing that BM said that I actually agree with about SS is that FH is too soft on SS. This of course is the pot calling the kettle black BUT it doesn't make it any less true. BM is useless when it comes to discipline in her home and FH has tried in the very recent past not to get involved with BM's altercations with SS. They ALWAYS fight and FH never gets the WHOLE story from either BM or SS but the story is never pretty. When it comes to school related things or behavior in our home FH has no problem verbally reprimanding him in the moment but thats about all that happens.
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