Forcing Activies to make her look like a "good" Mom
Ok so when the kids lived with us we stayed busy we were doing outings as a family, movies, aquariums, zoo, museums, etc… Even if we didn’t go out we did tent night inside our living room, or back yard camping. SO and I both enjoy being out doing things as a family. We moved to our current city in Oct 2011, and BM took the kids in summer 2012, during that time we had done all the above listed some multiple times.
So BM just got our discovery that SO submitted. Which we had included photos of some of our family outings. So big surprise, BM took the kids to the zoo, bowling, and skating for the first time since she’s had them, since summer of 2012, this past weekend.
She never does anything with her kids! SO calls and the kids are either staying at home playing video games all weekend, or going to one of BM’s friends house to hang out.
It makes me sick that just because she saw what we were showing the court all the things we do with the kids does she actually go, and do things with her children! At least all our photos were time\date stamped starting post divorce (which is 3 years of constant family interactions) when SO got custody of them, and all she has is (if hers are date stamped) starting now!
I hope that when the jury see's this they see what she's doing, and that's panicking at the last moment trying to make herself look like a good mother.
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She's no single Mom she's on
She's no single Mom she's on her 4th husband
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And there will some people who will frown at Dad doing "family" things and living with someone who is not his wife.
I dont think this is true at all. Most Dads live with someone who is not their wife. That is more the "norm" now than a nuclear family. And at least he is including his kids from the previous marriage. I would only frown upon it if he was doing activities with his new person and THEIR kids and not including his kids from the first relationship.
I don't think that will be an
I don't think that will be an issue since we've been together for almost 3 years in July and the last court hearing I was allowed to stay when the court room was closed to everyone else because I was according to the judge "primary motherly figure in the childrens lives, and this decision effected my life as well as dad's and mom's"
See, exactly. That's good
See, exactly. That's good that the judge recognizes that.
She won't keep it up for the
She won't keep it up for the long haul. You shamed her. You pointed out an area of parenting that she's been neglecting. Whether she is generally changing with the realization that she owes her kids better...or she is trying to show up up for the sake of the court.... Only time will tell.
My guess is that she will go gangbusters for a few weekends and then give up again entirely. My dh tends to follow this pattern whether (rarely) a bm pops back into the picture. He's super dad for a few weeks then back to his usual self....leaving me to do all the fun stuff.
Yeah I don't think she'll
Yeah I don't think she'll keep it up either. I think she needs to be involved with them. I'm not jealous that she's taking them places, I just wish she would of done it all along not just after seeing the photos from us. She views DAD as competition that no one is better than her so I hope it's not her just trying to one up him, and it’s for the kids.
At least she does stuff with
At least she does stuff with them? BM here never leaves her crappy, dark little apartment with them. They sit in their respective bedrooms on their respective electronics all day, every day, BM and her DH included. There's no activity and no human interaction. I wish she'd do stuff with them, even if it is just to make herself look good.
At Christmas the girl 7 was
At Christmas the girl 7 was talking about their family movie nights. After chatting about it more I found out that it consisted of BM making popcorn for the kids, and then they were sent to their rooms to watch cable. I asked if BM came in and watched TV with her but she said no.
Sounds like what happens at
Sounds like what happens at BM's. "Family" activities involve the family in separate rooms.