Last year HCBM wanted her boyfriend to participate in the father daughter dance with SD at her dance recital. DH squashed that and was able to partipate with SD however HCBM would not allow SD to attend rehearsals on her weekends. The dance instructor was so caring and kind to DH, she had an absent father and does this dance for the sole reason of how important the relationship is.
To say we are still slightly disappointed in the stance from the school is an understatement (https://www.steptalk.org/blog/skell76/anyone-experienced-school-270897) since conferences are not documented; information can not be shared.
Mostly for my personal therapy of typing it out. I have one friend that is a SM that gets it and this amazing board. So for now this is my therapy although I might seek out in person therapy because my anger towards this person grows exponentially.
The one where HCBM didn't like that I didn't say good morning to her on SD's first day of school. Said that SD has expressed to her she wishes we talked. SD has NEVER mentioned that and only stated "my mom doesn't like you" Mutual my girl trust me. (I don't say that I just tell her my focus is her and DH) Anywho so I said I have boundaries for myself and I came to see SD and wish her a good day, not HCBM who hovered.
Case in point:
School paperwork. DH completed sent off to see if HCBM had any changes. It's literaly verifying your address, phone number, contact, emergency contacts. That's it. First response : send me the login information so I can have access. She has her own parent portal. DH replied please log into your own parent portal to review and again, please let me know if you have any changes. (background DH is the primary parent since he's in district, he gets final say in legal custody issues)
I could shake my head at the idiocracy that is HCBM.
Every year and I mean every. single. year she rides the struggle bus when declaring her vacation time. Clearly outlined in the order "If a parent takes a 7 day vacation, it must encompass their 4 or 5 day parenting time installment so that a "Tacking" event does not occur."
Every year she declares her vacation she tries to take DH's 4-5 time and he replies with please adjust your vacation time to encompass your 4-5 day parenting time.
Normally she just will give the new dates but this year her response was.....
So in attempts to get SD discharged from therapy because quite honestly other than normal 6.5 year old behavior she's good.
However the meeting was a joke, Therapist said she wanted to see the frequency of hitting herself, negative self talk and saying she wants to die to decrease. DH said so she's had one minor outburst at school in 1.5 years so you're saying you want it to be 0 in order to discharge her?
We won on May 5, 2020 in court, HCBM appealed...Appeal judges changed two things: she can report DH for abuse (the original ruling was she had to go through court first) and they used the wrong tax year and they adjusted child support by $50.
Stupid sentenece right?
SD is in dance, which DH agreed to. Pays the majority of, participates in taking her if it falls on his time etc. Recital is coming in June and BM switched her to a new studio that does a father daughter dance during the recital described as:
“A magical class experience focusing on ballet and lyrical movement. Watch your little girl transform into a Cinderella as she takes the stage for a memorable dance with her Prince Charming (daddy)!”
So me and my boyfriend have been dating for the past 6 months. And even though it's been such a short time we instantly fell in love with eachother and he moved in with me and my dad. Our relationship is going perfect besides these little things we can't seem to agree on. His BM is TOXIC but she plays the victim card VERY WELL. She has his mom, his dad, and TRIED to have him wrapped around her finger. Things have been slowly escalating and I realize that it's only gonna get worse.