I have 3 step children. Ages; 21, 18 & 15.

The 21 had his first job at 16, got straight A's, and bought his own car (we matched what $$ he put in).

The 18 is now a senior in high school, struggles to pass and admits that he cheats when he can, doesn't have a job or a car.  He father (my husband) & his BM have not forced him to get a job.

So, I am the only one who sees anything wrong with this. My husband and I have gotten into so many arguments over it....

HELP!!!!!

Hey guys. I'm new here and I'm not a Step parent. However, my wife is and she's the main reason I joined this page. She's constantly saying I don't understand how she feels, and she's right. I'm hoping that I can get some insight to what she's going through and how to handle these situations in the kindest yet most fair ways possible. It's hard being a parent to children from different women with two completely different parenting styles. And when my wife and ex can't coexist, that's even harder.