Ok, so unfortunately the life I had before my husband and kids came along, is non existent. I use to be very care free, positive and excited about life. I had friends and a social life. I loved to dance and go out. That's not me any more. That person doesn't exist. Having a major bout of depression. Life as a mom (aka - stepmommy) is not at all fulfilling. Like any mom would know, just about everything I do is taking for granted by kids (and even husband at times).

just gave a client her album. the dh has 3 kids, the youngest is about to be 18.

the dh is a really nice guy, he is a doctor and stayed married to the nasty which ex for way too long only because of the kids.

the ex, who is now a lesbian, took him to the cleaners, and in the process agreed to many things. EVERYTHING was settled, and even though the ex was brain washing the kids, they were old enough it didnt matter really, two are away at college.

Is it truly possible for a woman to still be in love with a man who left her almost 3 years ago, is remarried and has made it evidently clear that he is happy in his life without her?

I can answer that without help. BM is still blatantly in love with DH. Although she has raked him over the coals emotionally, financially and publicly accused him of molesting their child, she is still in love with this man. I've always had a twinge in my gut, but I've never had it confirmed, until now.

I really felt the need to jump in on all the hoopla about kids/mental health/medication. Just to clarify I've been a mental health therapist for many years. I currently work in the local county detention center and jail. My clients are both juveniles and adults. I'm sorry to stir the pot, but this issue over whether kids and mental health is something that I'm very passionate about, and I cannot just sit by and let some individuals throw down generalizations that are not based on reality.

I keep thinking about her and how she's doing. If anyone has an update please post.
Thanks

Hi Can any one help me through this awful mess.

I was single and lived with my daughter (now six) for two years after my marriage broke down. At the end of my relationship I was in such a bad place - I had a late termination which was done incorrectly so I suffered a harrowing miscarriage, I lost two of my best friends one in a car crash and the other to cancer and then my brother was diagnosed with MS. All in all it was a very bad time.

My husband's ex comes to pick up the kids and when she does she goes and runs around on our property and plays with the kids instead of doing it at her house. Both of us are not at home, she picks up the kids and they told us they were goofing off with their mom in the backyard. This has happened on several occasions. Then a few months back she used our hose to wash something off of her car. I just want to make sure she is not coming in the house when we are not home.

They are placing him a mental ward. Hopefully they will put him on the right medication and make him act like a normal person. I feel nothing but contempt for the boy, he deserves every thing he gets. I cant help the way that I feel, and I dont feel bad for feeling the way that I do. He has just pushed me to far. I was with my daughters dad for almost 9 years, he had bipolar. and was hard to deal with some times. Nothing to what this boy has acted like. I hope they break him and his true colors come out.

I have been in denial on this and avoiding updating the Stalker community on the status of my Son (SS-17).

The good news is that I have been able to prevent his Mother from killing him or causing him permanent disfigurement by skinning him alive or slow roasting him like a brisket on a Texas BBQ pit.

Mediation was a mess. SS10 has been with us since the beginning of Oct. and BM just handed him over like it was nothing. no agreement, nothing, just on the word that she would see him every other sat and sun. it went fine til my fiance went for child support. then she wants him 50/50. in my personal opinion is it so she does not have to pay child support (or at least the full amount).