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Mommy laughs at bad behavior!

SMIT's picture

A little advice... 4 year old boys are not ready for tee ball! I don't think some of their mothers are, either.

SS looks adorable in his too-long t-shirt and it's hilarious to see 10 little kids in batting helmets (think Rick Moranis in "Space Balls"). Saturday was the third week of tee ball for my SS and he's a terror on the field. He's OK when his team is up to bat. The kid's got a great swing and he's so fast getting around the bases. His daddy and I were just plain embarrassed Saturday, though, by his antics in the outfield.

He laid down. Stuck his tongue out. Hit coaches. Told a coach, "Your face looks like doo doo," then told another adult, "You look like a loser." HIS MOTHER LAUGHED AT THIS STUFF. She looked at me at one point and I just quiety said, "But this isn't funny." I doubt it registered with her.

SS is clearly the youngest kid on the field (it's for 4-6 year olds) and he's the worst behaved. Maybe he wasn't ready for this. Ready, or not, his mommy laughing at all of the stuff he pulls out there doesn't help.

What is it with thinking EVERYTHING the kid does is cute and funny?! AAARRRGGGHHH! She lets him sleep with her becuase it's "Just too cute when he comes in with his blanket." She also questioned my husband's NOT rewarding him when he failed to get all "smiley" marks at preschool for more than two days in a row. Told my husband, "But you have to give it to him. He cried so hard."

Do I not get it becuase I've never been a biomom?

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Nise's picture

I’ve never been a biomom either so maybe that is why I agree with you…I too would like to hear from some biomoms on this subject b/c I feel that there is a very fine line and the behavior that is seen as “cute” at 2, 3, 4 years old b/c it is hidden behind sweet faces and silly/childish words (like poo poo face) becomes not so cute at 12, 13, 14 years old when poo poo faces becomes PRICK and said child is talking to their history teacher … regardless of age the “rules” should be the same… other people, especially adults/elders, are to be treated with respect….I’ve always been of the opinion that LACK OF APPROPRIATE DISCIPLINE is a form of CHILD ABUSE!! By not teaching a child self control, restraint and respect…a parent FAILS to prepare them for a world where that kind of crap does fly (i.e. with teachers, bosses, etc..) I’m with you SMIT!!

side note ... what part of Ohio are you from if you don't mind saying...I'm in SouthWest OH

SMIT's picture

Hi, Nise:

My little fam and I are in Columbus. Are you toward Dayton or Cincinnati, maybe?

Happy Monday!

SMIT

lovin-life's picture

..it's rude and obnoxious and her job is to correct him..and teach him proper ettiquette and respect. NO ONE wants to be around a kid like that!! My kids cousin was a holy terror, similar situation and everyone in the family cringed..when anyone mentioned his name..for the same kind of antics.. (he was an only child and could do nothing wrong in his parents eyes)

This child & mom just got off the bus as her freind got on..and they chatted breifly..the bus driver said to this woman.."do you know those people?" She said yes. The driver told her ..that of the 100's of people he deals with in the run of a day.....when he sees THAT CHILD at the bus stop with his mother... HE JUST WANTS TO HIT THE GAS ..and keep on going. The woman..her freind.. told me that story herself...during one of the many discussions everyone had about his poor behavior.

I've always told my kids that I want them to be welcome where-ever they go....

It has nothing to do with being a bio-mom or not...it's just poor parenting.

Dawn-Moderator's picture

Biomom shouldn't be laughing at such poor behavior. It will just continue as Nise said and get worse as the child gets older. I do think that sometimes the bioparent may be a little bit more of a push over, especially when the child is younger. However, in this situation, he should have had to sit out of the game for a little while. Kind of like a tee ball time out!

Dawn

Allyceson's picture

It's also a matter of preparing the kids for life on their own. I am a biomom and I would NEVER laugh at my kids for disrespecting other people like that. What happens when these little monsters grow into adults and don't know how to function in the real world?

SMIT's picture

Apparently, she corrected SS after the game and said she's going to talk to him before this weekend's game about good and bad behavior. She called my husband about 30 minutes (We have him this weekend, so I know his daddy will talk to him on the way there, too.) What steamed me so much was her laughing at him. What good did it do to talk to him afterward if she was snickering at his antics in front of everybody else during the game?

happy's picture

First of all it has nothing to do with being a bio mom at all.
It is strictly about respect and teaching your kids right from wrong.. By her laughing at him told him its ok to act like that. Embarrassing for you, you have nothing to be embarrassed about, she should be embarrassed, because parents like me who see that think that those parents who laugh and think everything is cute maybe should not be parents.. Being a parent is not all fun and games.. It is actually a job.. A rewarding one but you are suppose to teach kids to be respectful and that is not the example she set.. Your SS may have a chance if you stay in his life and help his dad.. The sad thing is someone should have taken the mom and the child and disciplined both of them.. God gave everyone a butt for a reason.. I know my butt got a taught once or twice..