H regarding his daughter.

This board is GREAT!  Rather than say something snarky or so about the SD and her behavior I come here, read what others are going through.

As one poster once said, it is easy to become the scape goat because, in this case H, is't going to dwell on how dysfunctinal SD is.  It is easier to lay it on me, so I just shut up, sit back and let him stew in the situation.  The only thing I do say when she rears her head is how much she scares me.  When H questions me I say it is about things she has done to me and him.  Of course H will say that is in the past so I just remind him that it is the things she has done in the past that make me scared of her in the present.   He poo-poo's it but I know he thinks about it because a few times he asked me for specifics from the past.

Well, here it is Thanksgiving.  I certainly did not invite her over, nor did she invite us.  This even when she stopped by looking for sympathy a week or so ago.

Today she just called, wanted to know if we wanted to come down for Thanksgiving tomorrow, and if we didn't they would bring something over for us.  H let it go to the answering machine and I have to say that she didn't sound very holly jolly, but more like something she was doing and really didn't want to.  H mumbled:  "Yeah, now she calls, last minute,"  He obviously was not pleased, did not pick up the call or call back.  Sounded to me like he does with the son that is a total loser and he has as little to do with as possible.

Maybe, just maybe, any thought and hope he had of her helping us out or me out after he is gone has disappaited.

RE:  the wills.  Got more out of him, either slipped or voluntered, about what she was after.  Seems she wanted him to make her beneficiary and executor because (get this) I would probably be too upset to handle things!  That she would then take care of me.  I asked him if he really ever thought that would happen and he said I shouldn't count on her for anything.

Glad the wills are alll cleaned up and tidy so nothing like that can happen.  I will always keep my ears and eyes open regarding her being around.  She is not as smart as she likes to think, but she is cunning, she watches for opportunity.

Meanwhile HAPPY THANKSGIVING YOU GUYS.  Don't eat, drink or fight about politics with your loved ones.   H and I are going to be home alone, but that's fine with us.