Stepson with crazy mom!!
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So long story short we haven’t seen my stepson in quite awhile and my four year old is asking why. I told him that his mom is being naughty and my husband got mad. Maybe I’m in the wrong but how else are you suppose to explain to a 4 year old that his 11yo brother can’t see him when actually it is because of my ss mom.
You shouldn't talk of the BM
You shouldn't talk of the BM in front of the child because your 4yr old (when and if he ever does again see the older child) may run his innocent little mouth to the older child.
Part of your grievance over the BM has been PAS, so why would you want to chance your own child repeating what he's heard to his older brother? Two wrongs don't make a right.
The kid is four. Simple explanations of 'because _________ (SS's name) is at his mother's) is sufficient. Your son has no need to be privy to details. What's going on between Dad, his oldest son and the BM along with any court dealings and/or inter fighting is not something your four year old child has any right or need to be informed of.
You mentioned in previous post that the SS was beginning to again have some contact (outside the home) with his father. How do you think it would be if SS finally again visits in the home or has an outing that includes your younger two kids and your 4yr old pops off with "Mommy says we couldn't see you because your Mommy is naughty"?
Not a good idea.