eating out of house and home
my skids were all kicked out of their home when they each turn 18 by bm.
who did they come to? their father and our home.
their intention was to go to college and work on the side but not before loafing about for several months and partying. they would come home at dawn making noise and waking dh and me up. they could make noise in the kitchen getting snacks and banged about dishes and pots.
then there was one of their friends who insisted on drinking the bottled spring water and not filtered water we all drank. this guest also ate my special packaged meals in the freezer thanks to the skid who offered them to him. i was on a diet that required these packaged meals and i would go to the freezer to find my meals were missing. the skid never bothered to ask me if it was ok. just gave them away.
i ended up storing things aways to keep them from the skids. everything from toiletries to food.
i was furious when dh did not support me in this presuming behaviour.
are they still there? If yes,
are they still there? If yes, time to kick them out like BM did, hell she's their mother and you are not, you have more right to kick them out then what she had.
Yes I use to lock everything up, laundry closet, food, snacks, booze, toiletries and it irritated me up the wall and through the ceiling.
Aergia would complain to SO... I locked up my perfume and toiletries and he would have a go at me, why in his house nothing gets locked up... he could not understand it's my personal stuff... now he gets it lol... too little to late
My own place, I have no need to lock anything away cause Deigma will ask before taking anything... and only in the pantry, he does not even worry about my toiletries...
I don't think I will have to
I don't think I will have to worry about this because the skids will stay at BM's as long as they can and she will let them because she over coddles and wants to be in control of them at all times. I do fear the day if it happens though and I already told DH that the skids will not be free loading in our house and there will be rules. They will go to college or have a job and contribute and respect our house otherwise they will be kicked out. OP talk to your DH and tell him how you feel. That these skids are adults and either need to launch or respect your household and if they don't then it's time for them to move out. Tell them as long as they live in your house they will work and contribute and respect you and your rules or they go. If they want to go to college to better themselves that is fine as well however, they still have to respect the rules in your house or they go as well.
stop buying food except your
stop buying food except your own frozen meals. THEN find a fridge on Craig's list, stick it in the garage and put a lock on it.
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And if you work stop giving money for household bills. PERIOD.
Let go of the rope.
Here is another case and point where BM kicks kids out when child support/or money ends for the kids. NO benefit to her anymore.
I plan to kick my kids out at
I plan to kick my kids out at 18 if they do not plan on being an adult about living arrangements.
I have told them that if they wish to continue living in the home at 18, they will need to contribute towards room/board/etc.... that's just the way it is.
Of course, the money they will contribute is going into a savings account, to be handed back to them once they DO launch.
Their dad is the same way - so it's not like they can just escape to dad's house. lol
That's exactly what one of my
That's exactly what one of my friend's did with their bio-kids. The month after they graduated from high school, they either had to get a job or get enrolled in college. The one that went to college got a free pass on paying rent. The one who stayed at home and got a job had to pay rent until she moved out. The day she moved into her own apartment, they gave her a check for all of the rent they had collected for the last 4 years. I don't know what they plan to do with the one who decided on college. She's going to be a specialist of some sort and won't be out of school for a couple more years.
adult children should have
adult children should have plans for college or jobs or both.
some times they can be college students forever, so caution should be reserved.
my brother has his 30 year old son live at home with him. he never married the bm who left after the son was born. (she was a drug addict and was never seen again.) the son has a garage full of music instruments while he has fantasies of being in a rock band. he grows his hair long and dyed purple and plays video games until dawn. he is also addicted to social media.
its really unhealthy as son sees no reason to leave. he has it too good.