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Last weekend part two - Baptism and BS

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Submitted by WalkOnBy on Tue, 09/12/2017 - 3:46pm

On Sunday, my granddaughter was baptised Smile

The baptism was fine, and it was fun explaining to my non-Catholic husband what was going on during mass and at the baptismal font Smile

Afterwards, DD26's MIL hosted a luncheon at her house. While I didn't think Asshat would show up, I guess his better angels were with him because he was there. We nodded at each other when he walked in, you know, with a look on our faces that you see on someone smelling fish, and they stayed the hell away from each other like we do.

There were probably only 15 or so people there, but the house is YUGE, so it was easy to avoid him.

My mother was her usual bitchy mean self. She complained that I wasn't outside with her at the outside table. Nope - the bees were insane and I am allergic so I stayed in side. The bees were so bad that even DD26's MIL was like 'you should not go out there."

Another reason I wasn't outside was that Asshat was outside. And my mother was up his ASS like I have never seen. Chatting him up about the departure for Japan that he and Thing2 had the next morning, asking all about his house in Boston, his airline miles account ("and just how many miles was it for the first class ticket you gave Thing2?" batting her eyes the whole time). Nothing wrong with her chatting him up, but NO reason for her to think I was gonna hang out with her while she was doing it.

After the luncheon, my family headed back to my house to hang and watch the end of the Lions game and then have a big old Qdoba taco bar (Thing2's favorite place) dinner. I was the hostess and we had about 25 people total and to say the least, I was busy being the hostess.

My mother left in a big old snit, angry that I wasn't paying attention to her and that I asked my step mom to bring dessert. Seriously, she was mad about that. Not sure how many of you guys remember my epic rants about my mom, but suffice to say, she is the original GUBM and I just don't play her games anymore.

There will be a part 3 tomorrow - all about my favorite child (anyone who says they don't have one is a liar - lol) leaving the country Sad

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Submitted by Maxwell09 on Tue, 09/12/2017 - 4:53pm

It sounds like in general it went well. Your mother was probably drinking up his attention because she wanted a rise out of you. It seems like you've learned to accept her for what she is and adjust yourself accordingly to keep her from getting to you. That's very awesome of you. It's always harder when its our own mothers so to be able to separate yourself from her antics is very well-done.

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Submitted by WTF...REALLY on Tue, 09/12/2017 - 5:55pm

You did have a really busy weekend. With high school graduation coming up for my son, I'll be playing the "avoid your ex-husband dance " like you just did. Blum 3

I can't believe you didn't go hang outside with your mom to make her feel good even though you could've died of a bee stings. Kind of daughter are you? Wink

Sounds like you handled an uncomfortable situation with grace and dignity. Good on you girl.

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Submitted by Livingoutloud on Tue, 09/12/2017 - 9:40pm

Oh toxic parents... so not fun.

Congrats on grandbabys baptism.

Hang in there re kid leaving the country. I know how that feels. My DD went to study abroad 10 years ago and ended up staying there. Never came back except visits. I went broke over the years flying there visiting her too...Now there is a slight glimpse of hope that she might return back to the states. Fingers crossed, I try not to hope too much....

I agree that people have favorite children. DD is my favorite child lol oh wait a minute I only have one. Lol

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Submitted by classyNJ on Wed, 09/13/2017 - 8:40am

I cringe when I read about your mother. She sounds just like BM. The boys always have to put up with the "well I was there but you didn't acknowledge me until I was there for 5 minutes - how DARE you ignore me I am your MOTHER!" So much more but it has put a serious wedge between her and SS19. She treats him like a trophy and parades him around when he is home.

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Submitted by WalkOnBy on Wed, 09/13/2017 - 12:17pm

yeah - it's not like I was hosting a party or anything. She is really just the worst narcissist in my orbit.

She told my BFF that she was "not allowed to say" she liked the cookies my SM made for dessert. Then cornered me and said "Why didn't you ask ME to make cookies?"

Uh - first off, your baking sucks ass. Second, you sent me a text asking if you needed to bring anything and I said no.

It is just so exhausting to be around her. I try to minimize my contact with her these days.