Pillow-gate update
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So I went out for a couple of hours. Got back to find my bed pillows have gone - just pillow cases left. Clever (not). Also I have a wooden artist hand thing for jewellery. The fingers had been moved so the middle finger was up. Actually this has happened before but I largely let it go. Told OH who is really pissed off about it.
I'm so cross I just left the house with Bkids and texted OH to say that's the last straw.
Assholes, all of them. If OH
Assholes, all of them. If OH had handled his kids and their snotty, selfish attitudes, it would not have gone this far.
I would tell them all to f&%^# off.
There is a reason that his kids feel it's okay to act like this, treat you like they do, and say what they do, and that is on your OH. Did he do anything about SS's little barge in?
Well OH said he would 'sort
Well OH said he would 'sort it' as I stormed out. To be fair he seemed really upset. Apparently last night when he went to sort it he told SS he had been disrespectful. SS said he gets no respect at our house and that OH should be more like BM. Ouch. OH understandably upset
Your SS15 expects respect at
Your SS15 expects respect at your house? Is that what he's saying? And he thinks the way to get that is to be a disrespectful asshole to the adults of the household?
What does he mean that OH should be more like BM? How is she?
Sure, your OH is upset (now) but the fact remains that he lets his kids get away with being assholes at your house. Otherwise, they wouldn't do it.
Oh HELL to the no. Their dad
Oh HELL to the no.
Their dad better sort this out or I'd be out faster than a jackrabbit on fire.
She'll do nothing more about
She'll do nothing more about any of this than she did over the lawn furniture her skid cut up. Nothing. Her husband won't parent his kids nor allow her to and she says she can't leave because she loves OH.
Sadly you may be right.
Sadly you may be right. Pathetic huh?
Why do you let all of them
Why do you let all of them get away with disrespecting you so?
Your OH should not allow his kids to do it, but if he's not going to step up, you have every right to step up for yourself.
Sd12 (then 10) did some nasty
Sd12 (then 10) did some nasty things exactly one time.
This involved putting powder cleaner on my side of the bed (luckily it didn't destroy the new sheets) and trying to put nail polish on my best leather bag (it didn't adhere), messing with a lipstick and putting melted chocolate chips in the book I was reading. All in one night.
DP came down on BOTH SDs like a rock star. I've never seen him so mad. They had to fix everything and do the laundry that very night.
Neither one has done anything like that since.
It all comes down to your OH to set down the law. It's as simple as that.
Ah, then yes, it is more
Ah, then yes, it is more difficult. Even though DP and I have different ideas about things we at least know where we stand with each other and I have no fear of telling him what I think, or if it's something I've not removed myself from, I can tell SDs straight up. In fact going to do that now....
And in the end DP has my back and vice verse.
You are in a mess, trust me,
You are in a mess, trust me, it only gets worse as they grow with this kind of HB and absent support. Multiply this a million times over, because that is your future--these are young children.
If you think it is bad now, just wait until they are adults. At that point, there will be much more serious concern(s) than pillows.
Take some form of drastic action now for your own sanity.
Time to make the "special"
Time to make the "special" pot of coffee for that toxic sex trophy. With a couple of bottles of coffee flavored ExLax!!! Sit back and listen to and watch the fireworks.
Dousing their pillows with pepper spray is a good one, Nair on the pillows is a good one too. A 15yo girl would likely take a good lesion from having to go to school looking like a mangy mutt with large patches of hair missing.
I learned too many devious retaliatory tactics at boarding school!!!!!
If she wants to play juvenile games... step up your game.
Have fun!
Or.... just inform OH that she never again will darken the doorstep of YOUR home.
Fruit... It's a joke. Relax.
Fruit...
It's a joke. Relax. I never did anything of these things but have seen the results of them.
And... when people are being toxic.... I call it.
Would you prefer... rancid, or venomous, or noxious, or septic, etc..... Pick the appropriate descriptor that you prefer and let me know.
The issue with so many blended family situations here on STalk and IRL is people whine, cry, lament…. and rarely address the unacceptable behaviors of the (insert descriptor here).
Unbleeping believable!! You
Unbleeping believable!!
You and/or your DH had better implement the nuclear option on those brats. He has lost all control if they are brazen enough to do such a thing.
Strip their rooms. Change the WiFi password. No electronics, no treats, no nada. When the inmates take over the asylum, you have to pull the big red handle and quell the rebellion or lose control forever.