taking custody

oregonducks's picture

Can a step mother, such as myself, take custody from my husband the bio dad of these 2 kids for not caring for them since I do all the work anyway?

Exjuliemccoy's picture

Why would you want to do that?? Where is the BM?

I doubt you could get custody, but even if you did you'd still have to deal with the kids' dad as he would still have rights to his children.

Rags's picture

You will likely have to get the parental rights of both BM and BioDad terminated and that is next to impossible short of them being brain eating zombie crack head child molesters. If they will voluntarily surrender their rights then maybe you have a chance.

Get a lawyer. That is your best bet for getting advice and support on how to make it happen and accurate information on probability of success.

IMHO of course.

Good luck.

islandmama's picture

Google adoption in your state. In mine, as long as the kids are over 12 and the BD and the kids all agree it will be easy. That is what I am planning on doing BUT I want Primary or 51% custody. This little snag I haven't researched yet since BM just finally died from self induced liver failure. If you can do it without a lawyer I'd suggest it. There is another site called JustAnswer that has a ton of professional advice for free, BTW

Disneyfan's picture

She has a child with him. If she calls CPS and they take his kids, they will take her kid as well.

I tried to explain to her before that a worker isn't going to deem a home/parent unfit and only pull the kids in question. The will placed all of the kids in foster care.

oregonducks's picture

Yes the mom is the one who abused them in the first place and since I am married to my husband and his two kids I feel I need to do something since he's not protecting them from a junkie and being a shitty father. The man can't cook let a lone brush his own teeth I'm the only sain one in this house.. taking care of all 3

oregonducks's picture

Yes the mom is the one who abused them in the first place and since I am married to my husband and his two kids I feel I need to do something since he's not protecting them from a junkie and being a shitty father. The man can't cook let a lone brush his own teeth I'm the only sain one in this house.. taking care of all 3

oregonducks's picture

I've known him my whole life. Decided that I'd like to adopt his children but I do not know that process..

Disneyfan's picture

LOLOLOLOL

You can't just decide to adopt someone else's children.LOLOLOLOL

Both parents would have to sign their rights away and agree that you can adopt them.

OR

The kids end up in foster care again. The courts take both parents rights away,then make the kids available for adoption.

If you are not a foster parent, the kids will not be with you during that long process. The foster parents that they are with during the process, will get first dibs at adopting them.

oregonducks's picture

I've known him my whole life. Decided that I'd like to adopt his children but I do not know that process..

Exjuliemccoy's picture

On any other day I'd suggest you call CPS.

Those are not your kids, and you can't fix this mess. Pack your bags and leave for saner pastures.

oregonducks's picture

We have both kids in therapy, and I wont let them fail in life no matter how I feel.. I deal with them everyday, and can't see them suffer. So, I am going to make sure they will have the best life that I can.

oregonducks's picture

We have both kids in therapy, and I wont let them fail in life no matter how I feel.. I deal with them everyday, and can't see them suffer. So, I am going to make sure they will have the best life that I can.

gachbongvietnam's picture

You can't just decide to adopt someone else's children.LOLOLOLOL

Both parents would have to sign their rights away and agree that you can adopt them.
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