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Mothers and sisters part 2

Sparklelady's picture

We all know there's no point in engaging our toxic BM's so I know I have no one blame but myself for wishing it might go okay to respond to the baiting of a toxic mother and sister. My fault. I get it.

I asked for opinions on Saturday re: my mother and sister sending multiple invitations exclusively to my BS 15 for family events which specifically exclude me and my husband. All other members of the family are included in these invitations, including my husband's two children.

My son approached me about this because it is bothering him, and he is very uncomfortable with the way things are unfolding. We had a good chat about it last night, and he explained very well to me how he was feeling about the situation and how he wanted to proceed. He asked me specifically if I would please tell them that he does not wish to receive any more invitations that exclude his mother and his step father, and he doesn't want to be put in the middle of it and he would like it to stop.

So I did. I waited until this morning so as not to potentially ruin my night. And that was wise.

What a clustercuss of horrible accusations and low blows I received. Just a mess. It was like dealing with my BM all over again. And let me tell you, I was brief and incredibly polite, because this is not my first time at this crazy ass rodeo. It didn't matter. Out came the craziness, and boy did they unload.

So, I suppose the lesson learned from this is that we should believe people when they show us who they are the first time, and the second through one hundredth time as well for those of us who are slow learners. Thank you for the support to those of you who shared your thoughts with me. And if this helps anybody his contemplating reaching out to second-guess whether that will work in their favor, then at least I will have that little glimmer that I can take away from the situation.

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hereiam's picture

we should believe people when they show us who they are the first time, and the second through one hundredth time as well for those of us who are slow learners.

Haha, yes, I suppose when it comes to family, we can all be slow learners. We tend to give them chance, after chance, after chance because we feel that we should. They are family, after all.

But there comes a time when being family is just not enough of a reason.