Is this mean and/or unfair?
So about 2 weeks or so ago i offered to take SD13 to the mall to get something for her dad for christmas. i also offered to help her get somethign for BM in the event that her maternal grandmother did not do so (she always does, so i figured id make the offer to look good knowing she'd never take me up on it).
Since then she's acted like a punk - ignoring my texts, being disrespectful, etc. ive basically avoided her. we have 2 week nights with her, so basically ive made partner take her out one night and the other night ive simply gone out and avoided coming home until she's left.
she did express to partner that i had said id take her shopping. my repsonse to partner was that her mother frequently takes her to the mall and gives her $20-$50 each time to stop with a friend. i told him that if she really loves him and getting a gift for him is important to her, she should be able to get something on her own with money her mother gives her. which of course would be a GREAT sacrifice to her becuase she'd have to forego getting her 1000th iphone case or slutty tank tops.
am i being wrong, given that i originally said id take her, or is this a good learning experience for all involved?