This is a tough subject for many! i am also going through it at home, as I have a 13 yr old stepson who has been handed control of my household from my wife. My wife has adamantly demanded that I stay out of discipline, despite my warnings that the state will eventually take over the job becaise he walks all over her. Recently, I approached him about his attitude toward his mother, and he told me to shut my mouth , and that if I didn't, he would furher damage my marriage. I am at the point where I cannot stand things too much longer and may consider leaving our home. This boy needs counceling, and is completely out of control, and I cannot get any consensus from his mother. Then, whenever he gets into trouble, I am the blame. In addition, I am always told that I am the blame for the friction in our home because of how much he says to her that he hates me. I am honestly at the point that I pray that he does something so bad that he is incarcerated, so that he will hit rock bottom. I have to constantly remind myself that it will only be four more years before I can take the legal measures necessary to have him removed from our home. Would you believe that this 13 yr old tells me that he would beat the daylights out of me. I have never been so challenged in my life to have the level of self control that I currently have by the grace of God. But there is a point where enough is enough. He steals, lies, smokes, and then has the nerve to say it's not his fault. Well it sure as hell aint mine! His bio dad does nothing and I mean nothing with him. He hits, chokes and bullies his 9 year old brother and I'm worried when he will start taking it out on MY 2 year old daughter! Yes MY biological daughter. For 3 years I've been told how its all my fault. BS! Ive spent plenty of money on him, tried to befriend him, do things with him, and all I get is crapped on by my wife and him. After 3 years of putting up with his disrespectful, foul mouth, to me and his mother, he flipped me the bird one to many times, and I lost it. I pushed him down into the couch. didnt hurt him, never laid a hand on him in 3 yrs. what does he do? you guessed it. He calls the police. He even says that if I yell at him he will make up something to get me in jail. He's been telling everyone in my wifes family that he will do whatever it takes to make his mom hate me. He's doing a great job at that! What does this kid think???? That his life of doing whatever, whenever he pleases is going to be better when I'm gone? Probably for him yes. No one will be there to challenge him or give him any discipline. So as it stands now, I dont say anything mean, or raise my voice, or tell him to do anything. only now hes gotten worse. He leaves the house stays gone for 3 days, and when his mom tells him to come home he simply says NO. I feel Im not a man anymore. Ive been whooped by a 13yr old and his mother. I have no self esteem, only go to work because It's the only place where I can do and act like a man. Im over it, just over it. My advice for anyone dating or marrying a woman with teen kids? DONT DO IT! it'll only cause you heartache, and the loss of money, not to mention your manhood.

I plan on meeting privately with the state officials in order to let them know how serious things are, because his mother simply buries her head in the sand thinking that he will outgrow things. As a result of listening to my wifes advice by remaining neutral, I am being robbed of my manhood, my dignity as a human being, and will now do everything in my power to deal with this situation privately with the legal system. It's so sad that things have to come to a point like this. When a child stands in my face and tells me that he is in charge, and then challenges me to hit him so that he can call the police to have me removed from my home, something seriously needs to be done about it. In serious cases like this, I believe it is necessary to take the appropriate steps apart from an irrational spouse who uses the phrase "you don't know a mother's heart" or any other excuse as a trump card in letting their child rule the household. Other step parents who are in a similar situation may want to consider the same approach I as am taking before it's too late!