Feeling like an outsider
First time poster, here.
I am currently engaged to my future wife. Together, we have a 1.5 year old son who I love more than anything. She has a 16 son & 13 year old daughter (different dads). Their fathers are still in their lives, but they live with us now.
I can't help but feel like I'm the odd one out. I feel overruled, overburdened and sometimes disrespected.
Both are really good kids.... However, I get almost a daily reminder, in some way, that I'm the odd one out. When we all get ready to go somewhere the 13 year always seems disappointed that I'm going.... I shrug it off. But honestly, it hurts.
The 16 year old so is a gamer, like myself. But really doesn't open up or come to me for anything. He helps out a lot around the house, which I appreciate.
When issues do arise, such as lack of chores, my fiancée is almost reluctant to take my side. And when she does, it is almost like she is upset she did. I feel like I'm the one that is always trying to get the house in order with chores, homeworl, hygiene, etc.
Again, they are both good kids... but I don't feel like I belong anywhere. I didn't realize trying to join this exclusive circle would be so hard.
I was raised in a fully blended family and can understand a lot of issues, but my child is their half-sibling... so it is different.
Does anyone else feel hopeless and lost?