Dealing with the BM
My fiance and I have been together for a little over 3 years now. He has 3 kids, Girl 10, Boy 13 and Boy 15. We have the middle child full time, except every other weekend. The other two are still 50/50 custody with week on week off. The BM, for little reason other than I am someone other than her, hated me. She does everything she can to try to make our lives miserable, or cause drama. Anytime there is mention of me and the kids interacting, she tries to punish the kids, telling them they will be grounded/write sentences. She stalks our FB and uses anything against us to try to turn the kids against us. She lies constantly about my fiance and I trying to make the kids go against us in anyway, while she is leaving the kids to constantly party, we think she is also on drugs, but have no hard evidence. We try to regulate the negativity by positive reinforcement with the kids. we reassure them that what she speaks against us are lies, and try our best never speak negative about her. The tow youngest see our side more so, and understand she lies and causes drama for no reason, but the oldest is for some reason on her side. he defends her actions when she doesnt deserve it, and we have to regulate him the most when he comes back from his moms, because she puts a bunch of stuff inher head about me, and then he acts rudely toward me. I am not sure what to do or how to deal with this. We continue to just move forward, but I am so sick of the drama, and the stress she causes. Any suggestions is greatly appreciated!