Feel like my 3y/o step-daughter hates me.
I've been living with my fiancee and his daughter for 6months now. I love the kid, she's usually really sweet and says we're best friends. She's never met her biological mother so doesn't really understand the concept of having a mum, but if anyone (like in a shop) says "where's your mum?" she points to me.
The problem is when her dad goes to work. She suddenly becomes evil. It's not big things, but just little things, touching something I've told her not to, talking back, making a mess, refusing to do anything she's told to, climbing on me and shouting when I'm on the phone... It's got to the point where she has me in tears within a couple of hours, and I don't know what to do any more
Her dad says "just stop letting her get to you". Easy for him to say when she's an angel around him. I've tried everything to get her to behave - naughty corner, naughty chart, time out in her room, shouting, screaming, crying, letting her be naughty, ignoring her, giving her lots of attention (not all on the same day of course!) but she still finds a way to flick that switch in me.
I'm starting to think I'm probably just not cut out to be a mum to her. It's making me second guess our relationship, and I'm scared of what might happen if we don't find a way to deal with this soon. Please, please, if anyone has any advice I really need it.